Husband has let himself go and is generally hard work

[Onetwobuckeroo]

Just that really. Been together 15 years, married for half that time. He is the best father to our kids ever and I do love him but just wish he’d try harder to be a husband.

I just feel like he has stopped making the effort in terms of his appearance. I’m not perfect, but he’s piled the weight on over the years, despite me endless times saying we’ll exercise / eat better together. His clothes are always baggy and ill fitting. When we first met I fancied him so much, I still do but does anyone else feel like this? I’ve tried talking to him and he just says he’s tired etc from work, kids, life etc. When we first met he was always down the gym but now just says he’s tired can’t be bothered. Even conversation is like me talking to a brick wall. I know he loves me and there’s no one else.

Anyone else? I sometimes just feel a bit sad like we’ve been together for a long time. Got a lovely life together but he’s no longer trying as we’re too comfortable. Even sex although regular is “comfortable”.

Hmm I can relate abit
ive recently had my third and last baby he’s 5 months old I ebf so had to be careful but wanted the excess weight off asap as it wasn’t making me feel great took me 10 weeks but lost 16lb in the last couple I’ve lost another 3lb still need to tone and abit more to lose I’ve been researching skin care and ordered some stuff I’m taking more care in my appearance with my first 2 kids my hair was permanently in a greasy bun and I wore only leggings but I’ve realised if you make more effort to look good you actually feel better. Dh has a stressful business and works away but he’s in a bad cycle of I’m going to eat better I feel terrible but the. Does it for a day and Sacks it off
it’s infuriating given I’ve done night feeds for nearly 5 years solely and can still muster up the energy to care how I look firstly for me and for him and my kids