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Is it my fault? Am I the bad person.

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TealBalonz · 16/04/2025 15:37

Hello

I'm new here and in desperate need of some advice.

I am a first time mum to a 16 month old baby. My now ex fiancée left us three weeks ago. Long story short, i gave birth to our little girl then three months later my now ex collapsed at work. After that he now classed as disabled and has alot of health issues. I have been the bread maker, run around mum and kept us going for just over a year since this happened. I was his carer and supported him through everything. I gave him everything. I went to every single appointment, called the ambulance for every sezuire. I went to work and also fed his eldest child when he wasn't providing anything towards him

Up until three weeks ago not long after the diagnosis of bowel cancel. He left us. He gave me no answers on why.

The day after he left me he called up his dad giving him verbal abuse and wishing him dead because he supporting me and didn't agree with his actions.

In theses three weeks I haven't had him ask me if I'm okay or apologise for the way he had treated me. It's been complete silence.

I know I'm about to sound silly now but I didn't see the warning signs before. But this is the third child this has happened to. He has three children by three different women. He doesn't work as he says his condition effects everything but he can drive and go to festivals and concerts.

Not to mention he has left me in such a financial issue. My mum paid off his £6000 worth of debts, he hasn't paid a penny back to her. I am also paying of my expensive Christmas present as he put it on my klana account.

Everyone is saying I dodge a bullet but why do I feel so lost and down in myself. I feel so alone

OP posts:
Humpsr · 16/04/2025 15:42

I am so sorry but everyone is right.
He is low class scum.
I pity the 3 children that have him as a father.

Your sole responsibility is to your child with this waster.

You need to focus on your child that needs you healthy and well.

Do not allow this loser back into your home.
Listen to those around you whom can see him clearly.

Your child deserves a decent life with out the blight of this selfish waster.

Maitri108 · 16/04/2025 15:49

I'm sorry you're feeling down. It sounds like you poured everything into this man and have been treated very badly.

In time you'll be grateful that he's no longer in your life. However, at the moment it will be very raw.

Focus on your lovely baby and build up your life. You might find the Freedom Programme helpful as it helps you learn about healthy relationships.

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