Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, and we have a two-year-old daughter together.
Before I had my daughter, I found him messaging other girls behind my back — twice. We got through it, and I stayed (I know I should have run for the hills). I told him before my daughter was born that if it ever happened again, I would be gone for good.
It’s happened again. I’ve found messages where he’s been speaking to loads of girls on social media behind my back — telling them he loves them, wants to see them, even meeting up with them.
This time, I’ll hate myself if I don’t leave — as hard as it is.
Because of his career, we’ve always lived away from friends and family. He moves around a lot because of work. I’ve decided I will be taking my daughter back to our hometown so we can be surrounded by family again.
But every time I go to leave, all it takes is for her to say, “I love you, Dadda,” or “Dadda take me park,” or “Daddy this, Dadda that,” and I’m just reminded how much her little life is about to change.
I need to know: will it really impact her every day at this age? She hasn’t gone more than a few days without seeing him in two years. I know he won’t be able to see her as much because of work.
It’s just so heartbreaking, and it’s what’s been stopping me from going.
But I think the right thing to do would be to leave… and start my life all over again. I gave up my career due to all the moving. I just want my daughter — and me — to be happy.