I can't seem to get over this guy.

[Heartbroken88]

I will try to keep it short. We met on a dating app last June/July and hit it off amazingly, he was so keen for the first and second date but after the third which is when we slept together he pulled away. I backed off and he went back to his normal self sort of however we hardly saw each other in person maybe once or twice a month and only once initiated by him and usually because he wanted sex but he messaged and called everyday.

Obviously the relationship went south when I asked where I stood in terms of a relationship and he said he had stuff he needed to deal with and just wanted to be friends. Friends didn't work which it seldom does and now we no longer talk, it's been 3 months and I deleted his number so I could get over him because I fell hard. But I cannot seem to move past this guy, I have tried dating and low and behold he was back on the dating site even after telling me he wasn't ready to date so I know everything he ever told me was a lie, his love was a lie which hurts like hell but I still can't move forward, he is on my mind constantly and no I didnt swipe right when I saw him on the app. I just want to know why and how to move past this because everyday is hard despite knowing he was the wrong person for me.

It's hard if you fell for someone but sometimes only time will help. You have probably been set off again by seeing him on the apps again but just give it time.

One day you will meet someone amazing and you will forget about this guy and wonder why you were so upset x

He is not the person you have built him up in your head to be. Dignity is worth so much more than any man. When you find yourself thinking about him, flip the switch to anything else. It will get easier in time.

Delete him on all social media and stop checking those if you have been. It just prolongs the process of moving on. I'd carry on with your dating but block his profile on there so you don't have to see it. For whatever reason he doesn't want to take it further with you and can't provide you with what you want. I'm sure you want someone to want you just as much as you want them. Stop wasting time on him, he's probably not all that great but you've likely built him up in your head to be amazing because you can't have him.

Just accept that feeling like that is normal. Will get better with time.😀
Just do the obvious things block number/dont check socials.

Are you really young? This sounds like when I was strung along for 14 months(!) by a guy in my 20s. It was absolutely devastating and took me a long time to get over. What worked was exercise, solo travel and generally building up my self-esteem. (What also helped was his hard-partying ways started to catch up with him and he began to look like shit.)

The only way is to get over someone is to get under someone else...crude but true.
There are loads out there just date others and soon you will be asking yourself whst you saw in the looser.

Just because he went back on the dating sites doesn't mean he was ready to date - at least not in the sense of being open to having a proper committed relationship. He probably just wants to meet someone else to have sex with, and I'd expect that once he gets what he wanted he will behave just the same with them.

This sounds more like he was stringing you along instead of an actual relationship.
Maybe you’re attached to his potential instead of the reality, that’s quite common. Time does heal but you do have to cut contact first for your own sanity. Keep yourself busy too, that helps.