Me and DH just had our "last baby" I won't get into the deeper details but DH has given me a real hard time since having DB. He must have fallen a sleep during biology class to not understand how a child is made and that it takes two.
Nonetheless, DH gives me almost death glares if I even say how much I miss being pregnant or imagine how cute another baby. I can't even make a joke about being pregnant again. It's almost feels like a sense of toxic control all the time.
He so condescending in his tone and and makes comments like "I hope I've made myself clear about sorting out you won't get pregnant again". Actually makes me dislike him so much. I have told him I won't go on birth control because it doesn't react well with my body but since he's so passionate then he should get th snip but HE WONT because he would much rather I go sacrifice my body again, as if having babies and birthing them wasnt enough.
He jokes there are alternatives like oral but honestly out intimacy is gone to shits because I have no desire to sleep with this man. I don't regret my children but I wish I had known his true intentions from the start because I would.not.have had kids with him.
If he had a more kind and mature conversation from the start I would have respected his decision more but it's his tone I don't respect one bit and can't empathise to his needs at all.
Leaving him is just not an option at the moment but it's something that had deeply run through my mind.