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[Tonaghtom]

Hi. Can I ask about my relationship.. the separated wife is dating and I looking after my children while she goes out with her boyfriend. This is either Fri until Sunday or Saturday until Sunday. This is every weekend..we separated as a lack of support a few times not honest

Eh?

What's your question? You need to set up regular time to have your kids. If its currently every weekend and you'd prefer weekend one week and mid week the next (assuming you can do school runs) then go to court and ask for that arrangement. What she does when you have the kids though, although may be painful, is irrelevant, just like when the kids are with her, it's none of her business what you do.

What relationship are you asking about?

So you're frustrated because you are caring for the children every weekend and you want to have some weekend time to yourself? You need to agree a routine with your ex, such as every other weekend. There's good advice here: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/making-agreements-about-your-children/making-child-arrangements/#:~:text=Child%20arrangements%20are%20usually%20an,you%20really%20can't%20agree.

Why are you only parenting at weekends?

So she has the children in the week and you have them at the weekend.

It shouldn't matter what she is doing or who she is seeing during the time you have the children.

Can you ask a question, rather than just describe a situation.
You'll get better answers if we know what you're looking for.

While you have contact with your child, her time is her own.

What's troubling you?

You don't understand that she puts the kids out to school 9am. They return 4pm(Monday. /Thursday they have drama class from 5 pm until 9 pm)..so she has. All day to herself so she looks after them. Until bed time on a Tuesday/Wednesday from 4pm until bed. About 10pm.then I have them Fri night Saturday night/day. Sunday until. 4pm.... so there is my hours. Where is my free time

I have them 2 nights a week. As well as Friday sat Sunday. Why only have the kids these days that whst she wanted

This is a matter between you and your ex and the family courts. I don’t think anyone here can usefully add anything.

I work Monday to Friday 7 pm to 5 pm.. then on a Mon I take the kids to drama class so she normally goes out for a coffee etc during this time. She sits in the house on a Tuesday with the kids does nothing.. Wednesday is the same Thursday is drama agsin. Goes bout when I collect the children so Fri night she heads to the boyfriend house and return on a sunday lunchtime. While I stay with my kids and take them to the cinema etc. Also the kids has go to school so that is 9 am until 4pm.. so this way it breaks down.. 7 hours day kids school. Home for 1 hour I collect kids to go drama..4 hours.. she home Tuesday and Wednesday. Drama Thursday out Friday evening and return Sunday. So that is 85 hours that she has to her self complete no kids... all she hascto do is sit with the kids for 18 hours in a week. Considering that they be in bed at night

Not worried what she does. Just making a point she needs to look after the children . All dhe has them. Is for 18 hours a week she has free time to her self at 85 hours
Kids are in bed after tge 18 hours

You need to do every other weekend so the kids get fun time with both of you. Speak to your solicitor about changing the arrangement

If the contact arrangement isn’t working for you then seek to change it. What are you looking for here? Other than trying to stoke up some outrage against your ex? You don’t need that to change the arrangement.

Your agreement should be that you have your children every other weekend, like the majority of us have them.
You stipulate this with her as an arrangement.
Then go to court if this doesnt happen.