I posted here a couple of months ago following the admission from wife that she has been cheating on me with a married man (I say admission but I had to go through hell to actually get enough evidence to confront after she denied it first time and suggested I was going crazy). However we are more firmly split and legally separated with our house sold and in the process of moving to new homes - in all of this despite being told by both her and the AP it was over they are clearly still meeting up - won't go into to it but as with before the lies are bad and she was spotted by a relative of mine somewhere she would never have been (she was meant to be at work) normally.
In amongst of all of the this there was a bust up with my family as despite being silent about respectful this whole time they saw her and were not "civil enough" and it got nasty from her end (I feel dreadful for my parents because we all tiptoe around her because if hers challenged she explodes and uses the kids as her shield) which gets me to my point ... she's acting like nothing has happened. We are still partially living together until the house has sold and aside from a few times in the early days after the admission it's just now talked about - I asked one question recently and she looked at me like I had two heads. She was clear that as part of my healing she would talk but honestly watching her skip happily about, away out a fair a bit (hardly seen the kids this week), obvs still with lover boy when he can get out the house 🙄 and all excited about moving into a new house etc - I just don't know to make of it all - and obvs we are linked because we have two primary school aged children. I'm not sure what I'm asking but her attitude is like "oh well I checked out years ago, stopped finding you attractive, became a workaholic, you had the kids most of the time, then I fancied this guy for years then we stared shagging but hey I've kinda done you a favour let's be friends" - it's the opposite of how I feel which is terrible, I've had to sell my home as I cannot continue in this arrangement, lost my trust and sense of security, am dealing with my children who are hurt and my own family who are hurt and angry at the betrayal then I look at her and think WTAF (her family have ostriched on the whole thing as otherwise there would be difficult conversations and they don't do that - for some of them it's like I've not existed after nearly two decades) - just having a moment as it's like she's just not aware or is trying to avoid thinking about the damage she has caused - have people seen this contrasting behaviour before??