Three close friends, L, T and B. Each others children’s godmothers/bridesmaids etc. A close friend of one of L whom she knew from being neighbours also came out with us sometimes and would come along when we would meet up. We were all living far from each other so it would end up four of us. The “friend of friend” (F) never liked me and whilst not overtly hostile there was always a sharp edge to her. She would organise meet ups when she knew I couldn’t go and made a point about how close she was to the other two women.
T had a horrible time of things for a while and was by her own admission, prickly. F gave her a huge slagging behind her back and yet simultaneously reached out to T and told her I’d said awful things. I hadn’t. Then she did the same to L, who called me saying “what’s this I hear that you’ve been saying etc” and I denied it obviously because it was all lies.
Next thing the 4 of them meeting up is splashed all over our socials and when I asked what I’d done, F said that they had the right to meet up as they saw fit and to get over myself. Then she told a few more lies about me. T said she would never speak to me again, and L said that she would see me but only the two of us, and anyway they weren’t all seeing each other without me, and it’s not her fault if F and T were friendly.
I was really hurt and there was nothing I could do. I pointed out that F had lied through her teeth and had got what she wanted which was me out of the picture entirely. L said she was just as upset as me and she still wanted us to be friends, and to be fair went to a big effort to come over to see me.
And yet they all still meet up. L doesn’t have any socials but F, who unfriended me, only has their meet-ups on her socials and without going into detail, has made sure that I’d see it.
L hasn’t mentioned any of this and I think doesn’t know I know. I just feel it’s so shit and disloyal of L, who just wants to stay well in with everyone I think.
L has mentioned a visit saying she hasn’t been away for ages and yet I can see that she has, with T and F!
we have been friends for decades but I also feel like I have to just suck all this up and it feels so rough.
Well done if you’re still with me.
TL;DR Got Wendied by F who is a manipulative liar.