Retrospectively rejecting in-laws

[SoOxon]

Is there anyone who did not know their in-laws, never met them, met them once or twice, was pregnant anyway so it didn’t seem to be important, who, post
marriage, cohabiting, babies, after experiencing the full gamut of inlawdom would not have continued with the romantic relationship had they known, just how awful/bizarre/
unpleasant/disagreeable/controlling/old fashioned/anti social/bigoted/fussy eaters/dim witted she was/they were and if you ignored all this, was it/is it worth it

Caveat emptor?

I mean I think a big factor is the level of influence / engagement from in/laws. If in-laws are awful but the couple never see or hear from them then that’s not too much of a problem.

Interesting. My 'in-laws' (not married but together 15 years) are fucking awful. FIL - homophobic, xenophobic, racist, sexist, misogynistic brexit voting arsehole who seriously thought he could control a 41 year old woman (me). MIL - now deceased, when alive a two-faced lying idiot who paid lip service to everything FIL wanted but then slagged him off behind his back.

I tried my best for 3 years and then gave up. Living 200 miles away really helped. When MIL died in 2023 I hadn't seen either of them in over a decade. No regrets about that, whatsoever. She didn't have a funeral, which was also a relief. I've always said that a good relationship with inlaws is a bonus, not a necessity.