I have put a very long post up previously and a lovely person did a summary which I've tweaked,,
I'm a mother of two adult sons. I had a good relationship with both growing up, but after battling breast cancer and trying to protect them from it, I may have overcompensated materially. my eldest son is doing well and I'm close with him, his partner, and their children. My youngest son, however, has had a series of rocky relationships.
in adult years I've had a tumultuous relationship with him, marked by repeated fallouts—especially after he had a child with a possessive partner, and later with a new girlfriend who is hostile toward you. He has distanced himself repeatedly, especially when he feels he can’t control the situation. He currently refuses to speak to me and he's also had a row with his ex and now doesn't see his daughter he speaks to his father but this whole situation is breaking my heart