Why do I ignore the reality?

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I seem to have some type of a block where I ignore red flags. Not major ones but basic ones like when someone isnt into me despite their words saying they are.
I have a slow uptake on this. I come
up with ‘reasons’ why they’re not asking me on a date even though they say they will. I ignore actions not words and then feel embarrassment and shame and frankly stupid when the penny finally drops.

I have done a massive amount of work on myself centered on this area and try to dispel the shame and embarrassment when it invariably crops up.
I understand that their lack of action coupled with too many words are ‘on them’, yet there is always some sort of delay with me processing the truth.
anyone else experience this and how did you overcome it please?
thanks for reading.

Anyone , please? I’d appreciate some perspective so much

Mine is basically due to trauma. It's been a long road and still takes me a while to work things out. It gets easier though the more you do it...generally 🤞

Journalling and about your relationships, more therapy. Once I realised it wasn't my fault that helped with the healing. Good luck.

Just mirror their behaviour. If they text you, text back. If they ask you for a date, ask them back, if they don't initiate contact, don't initiate.