So my MIL is staying for a few days. We have always had just an ok relationship as she is very protective of her boys, and no one can say a bad thing about them.
This time though, it is the pettiest thing that has been the straw that broke the camels back.
We were out yesterday driving to a shop. I was sat in the back and politely said "it's much quicker if you turn left at the lights up ahead" (he very rarely goes to this shop when I go all the time). He absolutely let rip and said "I am not going to ever drive with you in the car again, if you tell me what to do." This is really unlike him to react like this and I was a bit pissed off with him but just said "I was only saying as I go here all the time".
So in a huff he turns left and after about 50yds said outloud "this is the reason I wasn't going this way, because of all the speed humps, is your hip alright mum?" And with that she starts holding her hip and going "oohhh" over every speed hump (which there were 4 on a 1.5 mile stretch of road) when she hadn't for the first 2 speed humps. I just stayed silent in the back of the car.
We then arrived at the shop, and we all got out...... or so I thought. I had my child with me and we walked out of the road of the car park to the shop and waited outside as I didn't want her being in the road. We looked back and couldn't see husband and MIL behind us which was odd, then I noticed the car wasn't where we had parked it. We carried on waiting and eventually they turned up. I asked where they had gone, and he said "well you just walked off" I replied "yes to get our child out of the road". Basically they had moved the car closer due to his mum's hip now being so painful due to the speed humps.
When we got into the shop, our child decided she needed the loo, so I say I am going to take her. There was a queue as the ladies was closed due to a fault so everyone was queueing for the disabled toilet. While queueing I get a message saying "we have waited too long, and my mum is struggling with her hip, so we are going back to the car."
I didn't get to buy what we had gone to that shop for, we just ended up going home.
I never got an apology, and so I took myself upstairs and left them to it for the afternoon. In the early evening after I got our child to bed, he came up and had a right go at me for staying upstairs. I said (and I know this is really petty) I won't be going back downstairs until I get an apology for how he spoke to me. He walked away.
Now, I know it all sounds very petty, and I fully agree it is, but this happens every time we see his Mum. It's like he reverts to this little boy, who has to do everything he can to please his Mum. His brother is exactly the same and his poor wife gets a tirade whenever we are all together with his Mum, but less so when it is just the 2 of them.
I know I have a "D"H problem in a way, but this only happens when we see his Mum. I can 100% assure you this never ever happens when she is not around. We see her about 5 times a year, so do I just suck it up for those times? Stay hidden when she is around to save my sanity or do I start looking at leaving for this?