I think I've been Gaslit?

[StarkleLittleTwink]

I have a close relative who, several times now, has insisted I wronged her way back in the past. The incidents she referred to happened so long ago, that I don't have clear memories of them and am not even certain they happened. The first time it happened I told her I couldn't remember things happening the way she said they did, but that I was sorry if I did hurt her. Since then she has brought stuff up twice more which I find quite confusing and hurtful. It's almost like she's trying to convince me that I'm a dreadful person. Is this Gaslighting? It's beginning to feel like that and I am now wondering what she'll come up with next.

Have you tried using the 'Recollections may vary' comment? Or even a 'that's not how I remember it at all, how odd'.

It might be gaslighting, or she might actually believe what she tells you. But why is she doing this and is it a new behaviour?

This issue aside… are you close to this relative and generally a happy healthy interaction?

im going to guess.. no

Is this your child op?

I can relate as my adult brother accused one of his cousins in the same way. Don’t want to offend anyone but my brother was suffering from a mental illness but vehemently beloved this one particular person had wronged him in a very bad way. Of course the cousin said he had no clue what he was referring to and they’d not been in contact for years despite only a relatively small age difference. So just wondering if similar parallels could be drawn with your situation?

No, not a child but very close. We haven’t always had a harmonious relationship but I do try very hard to support them. Moomin: yes definitely some parallels there. Thank you.