I left my partner 3 months ago. We were together for 5 years. Luckily, we didn't live together. I live with my 20 year old son who has autism. He's a great kid. No trouble at all. I'm devoted to him. My partner struggled to understand my son. He struggled to understand my son not being very social with him and tbh I feel he was jealous that my son is number one in my life. That's normal! Your kids come first. He doesn't have kids and is 52. He made jibes at times and I was always very defensive of my son. My ex partner drinks too much and I told him he had a drink problem. He was a total dick on drink at times and his resentment of my son came out on drink at times. Basically, I got sick of it all. Since we split his texts have merged between nasty and nice. Lately, he has been really pressuring me to get back with him. Telling me he loves me etc. I told him he needed to address his drinking and could go to AA. He said he wouldnt go there and it wasn't right for him. He said he would cut back his drinking. He's an evening drinker. I told him to give up spirits. He said he would stick to Guinness as he isn't a dick on that and not touch spirits. I feel resentful about the things he said about my son in the past and the way he treated me at times. I know he feels bad about some things. He lives close by so I can't help bumping into him. He piles the pressure on constantly when he sees me. I've been fine on my own. Lately, we are more civil and I left a few things over to his apartment today. First time Ive set foot in his apartment in three months. It's gone downhill as I used to help him by cleaning it. I'm not doing that ever again. I've my own house to keep. I know a lot of men aren't houseproud in general but when I saw his apartment I did think wtf. How hard is it to clean?! I feel myself getting sucked in again as he is so full on and I do see red flags here. Ive been doing fine on my own. Me, my son and my dog. He's just made me confused all over again. Yes. I probably have been too soft by giving him an opening at times instead of just saying clear off but you've no idea what he's like. Very full on. He never gives up. What the hell do I do? I want what is best for me. He has offered to go to relationship counselling. Does he deserve another chance?