Husband threatening divorce

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I’m heartbroken. I just don’t know what to do. My postpartum journey has been rough and I’m truly trying to get better but my husband has literally lost all patience with me. He says he doesn’t want to be near me and is scared to talk to me because he doesn’t know which “hormonal version of me” he’ll get. The name calling is his default when he’s frustrated and lately that feels like all the time. I love my husband with everything I am and I’m so upset and sad that he’s been considering divorce. He says he hates who I’ve become since the birth of our son and I just don’t know what to do anymore. My son is my priority but I always try to make time for my husband but it all feels one-sided. I am with my son 24/7 and my husband works full time so I do the night feeds too but whenever i ask for help, it falls on deaf ears or turns into an argument. I feel so lost.

so you have a newborn which is hard and he is calling you names? lawyer up and get rid of him is my advice

Is this your first child ? If so the first year can be very hard on a relationship. It was the only time in 20 plus years that I seriously considered leaving my partner and I suspect him me . We didn't get along. Resented each other . I to this day think he got off lightly when it came to night feeds and general care of our children. And he didn't have a clue how to cope with my mental state or physical.

But it did get better and I'm so glad we stuck together .
It does sound like he needs to be more understanding and realise how exhausting it can be

i would like to start with a so sorry you’re struggling..but if it makes you feel any better it’s hard fucking work on the edge of a breakdown that the majority (who can’t afford a nanny 😂) struggle with and you will get there and it will all be worth it. I obviously don’t know the ins and outs but you have said DH has said he’s struggling with your hormones (understandable from both sides) but you’ve immediately went defensive in a way that makes me think you’re under so much pressure then take everything as an attack when if under a less stressful situation would you feel all these comments are an attack…(though I don’t know the names he’s calling you which might put a completely different spin on it)

Call his bluff, he needs you more than you need him really. He sounds awful btw x

You’re struggling because he’s not stepping up! He can’t even give you one night’s sleep a week? Do not let him put all this on you. Anyone would be a hormonal mess with broken sleep and no support. Unless he’s a brain surgeon, he can cope with a broken night or two too help his post partum wife recover.

If you are looking after the baby, your husband needs to step up and look after you!

You need rest, you need to be cared for, you need to feel supported and loved.

He’s being an asshole

How old is your little one?

I'm so sorry.

I'm going through something similar. My ex left me at 6 weeks post partum, I had severe PND and my dad was end of life. We said we would work on things as I was desperate not to lose him. He finally ended things 4 weeks later when his affair came out and I had just buried my dad.

You will get through this. Call his bluff, he will come back if it's meant to be. Happy to chat if this is of some comfort to you, it really does feel like the world is ending x

I’m a single mother and went back to work when my baby was 7 months old to a high stress full time job. That was 8 months ago and my DD has still never slept through the night. He can damn well do some of the night feeds and have the children after work to give you a break without being unable to perform at his job, otherwise how would single parents cope?!

He would rather divorce you than step up and support the woman he married and his newborn baby in a very very difficult phase? Ew.