Split from partner

[MelMac89]

Hi

I'm looking for some advice, I feel like I need to explain my situation to make me feel like I'm right in the way I'm acting feeling

Our relationship recently ended, my partner moved on with a new situation within a week of this happening, he's has since sent me messages staying how he's so glad he's walked away and that he's happy he's found someone who's makes him happy, obviously that is going to hurt me so Iv stated at this moment in time I feel like I can't be around him at present and that the only conversation that I want to have with him is about our kids and future house sale. I don't think I'm being unreasonable but he kept texting me saying that he thinks I'm being unreasonable and should be able to be around him and speak with him normally and after for a long time I'm showing him that a don't care or ever loved for him, but I just can't face him right now the fact that he's moved this quickly but to also rub my face in it when iv never asked to know any of the information he's giving me about her makes me want to be physically sick. Sorry I don't know what I'm doing but I think I just need to know how I'm feeling isn't "silly" and I should be able to still have boundaries even if we have children, iv never made it difficult for hom seeing children and have never said anything to them, why does he need to have to want a relationship with me after all this? Sorry I hope this makes sense to somone who could maybe just make me feel like I'm not crazy 😩😩

Block delete no contact communicate via his mum for child arrangements

He’s trying to continue to manipulate and control you
You’re in the right. He’s being stupid. Don’t bother wirh him. You only need to discuss kids and financials.

Honestly thank you so much, he's put me through so much and he's making me feel like I'm being petty by not wanting to have a relationship with him. Iv blocked him from most things but I feel like I need to keep the contact with my phone only for the sake of kids but he's just using this to send these kind of messages and not about kids 😭

YOU get to decide what relationship you want with him going forwards. If you want to discuss just the kids/ financials, that would be normal under the circumstances.

of course you are right.
He is doing the big 'look at me and my fabulous life'.
Even if you ended it you are going to feel hurt.
You can't be 'mates' yet, if ever.
Big hugs to you.

You do realise that you don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to? You don’t have to receive his texts. You don’t have to listen to his crap. You don’t have to know anything you don’t want to know.

Set up an email address specifically for him. Something like [email protected] and tell him that you won’t be responding to anything that is not directly related to your children or the house sale. And then block him. On your phone, on social media and on every other platform he can possibly reach you on. Nominate either your mum or a friend to be his emergency contact so if anything happens while he has the DC, he can phone your person and they can let you know. If he emails you great big lengthy paragraphs about anything other than the children or the house sale, then stop reading immediately and do not respond in any way, shape or form.

Think of him as a really stupid dog that just wants to hump everything and needs training. He needs to learn that you will not respond to anything that is not DC/house related. And you have to learn that his humping is not your problem anymore. He’s saying everything he can to cause you the most amount of pain possible. Give it six months, they won’t even know each other’s phone numbers.

Oh honestly thank you so much for your lovely supportive comments ladies its being hell last couple weeks but to feel like I'm going nuts on top of it all is so difficult 😭

What a complete dickhead. I agree that this is about him retaining some sort of control and influence over you. It's a common tactic of abusive men.

You might consider getting a cheap burner phone with a new number and zero smart phone features which you use only for him. Then you can choose when to switch it on. Block him on your regular number.

@Fluffypotatoe123987
What?
Why drag his mother into this??

What a nob he is! expecting you to be happy for him and best of friends? No no no he doesn't get to do that. Do as others have suggested - block him- you don't care other than DC/house sale arrangements. I'm mad on your behalf! Arrogant prick.