What do you do when you walk through the door?

[Cheesebillymonger]

I always walk in and either take my shoes off or go straight to say hello to my family, DH and DC.

when DH gets home, he walks in gets himself some food from the fridge, has a glass of water etc etc. Can easily be 5 minutes before he even comes to see me and DC if we're in the other room.

I find it odd, or is it just me?

Sounds like he takes a few minutes to decompress.

Sometimes the need to decompress makes you more appealing to your family!! After a hard day and a long drive I need to draw breath when I get home... Before I face the chaos!!
Menial job not brain surgery but busy none the less!!
Then zone back into dm mode and ready for anything.. Try not to take it personally op.

I hadn't considered the need to decompress. Makes sense

I too decompress. Take my shoes off, appreciate the silence and maybe have a quiet chat with my cat before announcing I’m back…:)

5 minutes isn't long?

I generally put my keys down etc and shout "hello" upstairs to let them know I'm in.

I tell the cat I'm home, as she comes down to welcome me, even though it's obvious. 😀

Shoes off, hands washed, upstairs to change clothes, and then come back down to see OH in the lounge.

Bra and socks off immediately. Then find and fuss the cat.

This sounds like an actual plan. I may do this instead of saying hello in future

I decompress in the car on the drive outside my house. Sit quietly, listen to birdsong (or rain), maybe MN a bit. It's a habit from when I had small dc at home, who would leap on me the moment I set foot in the house.

When I come in I always shout "Hello-o!" as I'm taking off shoes and coat. If WAH dh is still at work, I ignore him and get on with whatever, but if he's finished for the day I go and greet him before getting on with stuff.

Dh does pretty much the same, except that he doesn't say anything when he first comes through the front door. He's also more likely to get jobs like bringing in shopping done before coming to greet me.

We are both more your DH’s style, minus the food but possibly plus the kettle going on.

Shoes off, bag and keys away, wash hands and maybe loo. Maybe upstairs to change. It’s not a big house - if DH is in living room next to hallway he will hear me come in - if he is two floors up in office might only realise as I move around. The front door is quite heavy and opening and closing is very audible. We don't seek each other out the moment we come home.

Say hello to pets and kids, have a quick catch up unless obviously I am first home, then check fridge to see what we are going to have for dinner and check if we need anything in the shop. Change shoes, sit for about 20 mins doomscrolling and then get on with my evening.

Sit on the stairs to take my shoes off and end up scrolling on my phone for 5 min, but we do suspect I may be neurodivergent and it’s a fairly typical thing to do for people that need to transition from one thing to another 😁 DH will often find me on the stairs 😆

My husband strides in and immediately him and the dog have an immense love in which involves her waggling her bum so much she nearly falls over and trying to show him at least 2 toys and find a slipper to give him - which often involves running up and down the stairs (both of them) while he tries to rub her tummy.

I get a 'hi' at some point if he spots I'm there....

Hmmmm.

I am like you, op, shoes off and go say hello. He is more like your DH, fusses the kids(aka cats), feeds them, checks the mail,gets food and drink and starts doing stuff around the house or checks the garden. I usually end up going to greet him or he calls me(if he thinks I’m awake as I work shifts)to tell me come sit in the garden as the weather is gorgeous.

I used to take shoes off, say hello to ddog and call out "hello, only me!" to anyone thats in the house.

Then dh started WFH, got told he was on a call and all his divisions around the world now knew Hedges was home 🙈😂

So now I take shoes off, say hello to ddog and carry on through the house as if I'm on my own there.

I hang keys up, shoes off, shout out hello.
Then go grab a drink of water wash hands, (put frozen shopping away) flip kettle on, then physically go see whoever is in the house before making a tea and unpacking rest of shopping.

I never get anything to eat without checking to see if others want the same snack. Even if it's a bag of crisps. My ex never did, even if the kids were in the kitchen with him 😠 Maybe that is the part that seems off to you?

Me and DP are both like your DP. We'll get in, potter about a bit and say Hello when our paths finally cross.

Doesn't mean we love each other any less.

Me, shoes off, keys, coat and bag away, wash hands, make tea. I’ll say hello to whoever is in as I’m doing those things.

DH, goes to the toilet which is next to the front door, walks straight through the hall and kitchen to dump bags, keys and coat on dining table, eats crisps and or biscuits, wonders why the family are not lined up in the hall awaiting his return so bellows hello and chats for a couple of mins, asks what for tea and when it’s ready, goes for a walk regardless of the answer.

DC1 and 3 are virtually the same as DH minus the going for a walk, DC 2 and 4 are the same as me although they don’t make tea.

Shoes off, keys and bags away, then fuss the dog and the cats, go for a pee and then greet DH.

I listen to the man across the street every evening open his front door and immediately shout ‘hello hello hello’ in a song sing voice and hear his kids/wife greeting him back. So very sweet.
I would come home, shoes off and heavy sigh and then go greet whomever, but usually I was the first one back and had collected the kids on the way so it was full on already.
When kids were small and my DH still alive I was quite put out when one night he got home slightly earlier than usual (so 7pm rather than 8pm) and decided to make himself a cup of tea knowing full well I was bathing the kids and pretty fed up with them at that stage. Normally he’d come home and straight upstairs to say goodnight as they would be in bed getting a story.

Shout hello up the stairs, lock the door, hang up the keys, go for a wee, take my bra off and chuck it up the stairs, talk to the Good Cat who inevitably comes to receive his scritches behind his ears.

If anyone’s downstairs, I chat with them. If they are upstairs - WFH, sleeping in (student), whatever - I see them whenever they come down.

Hang coat and bag up, shoes off and shout hello. Go into the kitchen to wash hands and then go and find the family. We all do this.

We're open plan downstairs, so not an issue. Sometimes DH is in the shower upstairs when I get home, so I call up the stairs and then go and make a cup of tea. His hearing isn't the greatest though, especially when he's standing under running water, so he won't hear me, but I yell 'HELLO!' anyway.