Would you bother with this man?

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I’ve met a man some months ago . He was still living with his wife and kids but aid his marriage was over for years. I left it there but we text now and again. He has left now and has bought a new home. He’s leaving this month. His kids do not yet know. We met recently for a chat. He asked me to date . I agreed. That was last week and I haven’t received any message except for thanks for lovely afternoon and good wishes for an occasion.
I know he is in turmoil emotionally but should he have made more contact f an effort. Do I throw him back?

Yes. Throw him back.

Yes, I'd avoid any kind of a relationship with this one.

Just forget about him.

You really don't want to get involved with someone in emotional turmoil who's just left their family. You'll be a rebound at best and an emotional dumping ground at worst.

Run

Don’t ever entertain saying a recently separated man - you’ll end up being his rebound fling and unpaid therapist getting him in a good headspace ready for the next gf

If you have to ask the question, you already know the answer.

He's still legally married and about to go through a divorce and finalise custody arrangements. He's not going to have the head space for you, look for someone single and childfree.

Throw him back.

Honestly, don't go there. The man is not ready for a new relationship, regardless of what he may think. He actually needs to heal from his marriage, not rush head long into another relationship. Divorces can be messy, long and if children are involved, then there's contact arrangements to be made too. He's really not going to be in the right frame of mind. You also don't want his wife thinking, you are the reason for the marriage ending either! Stay away from him, and definitely don't get yourself involved with him.

He's not dealing with the fall-out of his marriage OP and looking at you as a way out. Not being truthful.

Run a mile and read the forum on here about Step mums.

You deserve so much better than this.

This.

Leave it be until he's actually left, if you still want him then. If he's not communicating with you much, he isn't that into you.

It won’t end well.

By the by, doesn’t it turn you off that the pathetic creature needs someone else lined up? This is so common with men.

True story.

"He has left now and has bought a new home. He’s leaving this month. His kids do not yet know."

Well which is it? He has left now or he's leaving this month?

Either way, at the moment he's still with his wife and kids and what's coming out of his mouth is just word-salad.

He's probably got no intention of leaving his wife and kids but tells you that because he thinks that's what you need to hear in order to progress getting another notch on his bedpost you into bed.

You don't actually believe him do you?

This ^

Yep this. It sounds very much like the usual script of a man who is separated but not actually mentioned it to his wife.

He's bought a new home but hasn't told his kids yet? I bet his wife doesn't know either. And leaving this month? 😂

Sure Jan.

Don't be dumb.

Absolutely throw him back. It’s raw and messy. You will be an also ran/ego boost at best. Better to meet someone in a good stable place who can invest their time and energy properly.

AVOID.