How would you feel if your family made constant jokes at your expense?

[Modern20]

I’m very close with my family, they are generally good and kind people and support me and my own family a lot.
however they always make jokes about me that (I feel) aren’t at all true or accurate. I will ask what time something is at later that day say dinner and the constant jokes will be I’m a control freak, I need to know everything etc.
Or they will joke that I am a helicopter parent because I don’t allow them to kiss my newborn baby or give them chocolate for breakfast.
there’s quite a few things like this, it has always annoyed me but I’ve never said anything.
I have some health issues going on that I have trusted my parents with and they have said they will support me. I spoke with them about an appointment earlier and asked what time they can come up to mind my children so I can go (this was the arranged plan they were happy to babysit). Out comes the jokes that I’m OTT, that I need to micromanage everything etc etc. I just had enough and burst out crying, which now seems ridiculous. I said I don’t appreciate the constant jokes about me especially not when I am worried about something and have trusted them with this to support me through it (practically and emotionally I hoped). I was told to grow up and it’s only a laugh. I’m a 42 years old mother to 3 children and I’m so annoyed at myself for even getting upset

Yeah don’t share anything personal with them. They are bullying you. It seems like they have allocated a family role to you. You don’t have to accept it. Go very low contact and see how it goes.

I can;t give and either/or answer this they could be totally being mean and you are not doing anything wrong, or they find you controlling and think you are OTT and have OCD or wwhatever they think

yes it is obvious we only have your side so people are automatically going to 1. tell you what you want to hear, 2. only take your side when they reply or 3. put their own issues and insecurities into this, we dont you and dont know them so we can't say who is the 'goody' and who is the 'baddy'

but yes endless jokes can get boring after a while

It's their personality.
Unless you want to find a new family, nothing will change.
Learning to cope better with the jokes is your only way to feel less stress.
I would laugh.
Practise fake laughs.
Hear the joke coming and prepare to laugh along. You know they love you so much underneath.

Practise not voicing your every question too. Keep a few of your questions inside your mind and learn the answers by waiting longer and observing what is happening around you.
Train yourself to be a watcher. Watch life happen around you and feel relaxed not stressing. Give yourself a break.
Watch more comedy TV and films - reruns of Ab. Fab, The Simpsons and The Office... films like - A Few Best Men, Bridesmaids, Bran Nue Dae and Hunt for the Wilderpeople.

Assuming they're just being lighthearted ... Embrace it? Give it back? My sister always tells me this, but I just laugh it off (since being a parent I have become uptight!). Just tell them you don't like it, but if that doesn't work then I'd give it back or think of some good comebacks.

Wow. That’s really the advice you’re going to give when OP is being walked all over.
Well done for being completely tone deaf. Yeah, let’s tell the OP to watch The Simpsons etc, because plus the comedy and animated aspect they’re such a functional family. Heads up to you, don’t give such bloody poor advice going on about tv programs to glaze over what OP is having to endure. Maybe give a bit of adult to adult advice?
Unfortunately OP can’t just shout D’oh to resolve the issue. Bloody hell, is this the advice you give to your (hopefully) adult friends? 😂😂😂

I’m sorry but that’s awful advice. Practice a fake laugh and watch the office?

I have a person who did this. I always asked the person “was that comment for your enjoyment our for our relationship because I didn’t like it so it didn’t work if it was supposed to improve our connection” I said it a good few times. It is then very obvious that the behaviour is for themselves and obviously selfish since I ve made it obvious it does not improve the connection in the relationship. It has really worked.

Do you have friends who could support you, OP? I don't think anything will change with your family because that person will always say that they're fine and you're the problem. I wish I'd done what my sister did to my parents: Told them to fuck off and went NC. They're dead now and I don't miss them. Anyhow, remember it is abuse and you don't have to submit yourself to it.