Looking for any advice on whether I’m justified in how I’m feeling
DH and I have had a rough year - 3 missed miscarriages, one which could have killed me due to blood loss and was really drawn out. We have since decided to stop trying due to our ages (41 & 45) and so our relationship has been a little strained of late.
some other background info. Around 18 months ago DH was found to be texting another woman. I saw some messages and all were friendly from his side but she was definitely giving him the come on. He has now blocked.
also there’s been a few other things such as liking half naked women on instagram etc which he has now blocked and I also overheard him laughing with work colleagues about how he employs women based on what they look like.
this coupled with my MCs has left me very insecure.
Today I was going upstairs to say goodbye to him and I heard a call come in on teams (he works from home) It was a women’s voice saying she needed to talk to him (in a pathetic help me voice) and she proceeded to talk to him about an issue with her son. He was so attentive during the conversation, obviously knows all the background so these chats have happened frequently. He was listening, giving great advice etc and it sounded really cosy. I crept back down and went shopping. He has since asked me something and I said to just leave in some peace.
the main issue is that he doesn’t listen to me when I talk to him. When we had our last MMC we drove home in silence and then he suggested we play on the PlayStation together. I was in so much shock I just went along with it and then we never really spoke about it again until I started bleeding 2 weeks later and went to hospital.
it seems silly but I feel like I intruded on a cosy chat between them and why can he be like that for her and not for me? Also there must be a familiarity between them for her first thought to be to chat to someone else’s husband and not her own/her friends