Need Advice! Feel So Lonely!

[Goingoutofmymind90]

Hi all,
Would you say your partner loves you when he goes running to his mum everytime we have problems.
He calls me names and says horrible things to his mum and his mum doesn’t like me anyway, says the most horrible vile things about me.
I haven’t done anything to make her not like me but she doesn’t and she has turned the whole family against me because she spreads so much lies about me!
She doesn’t respect my boundaries, lies and is generally a nasty person!
My father in law I use to get on with but he seems to of distant himself because of her and the stuff she says!
Why are mother in laws like this, I don’t want to be in this relationship with my partner when I’m not respected but because of how nice I am, I don’t want to split up the family home but I am so unhappy, lonely and just feel so down.

Tell him to fuck off to his mums and not come back.

Your mother in law is not the problem here, your partner is.

If goes and tells her about arguments and things you’ve done wrong (in his view) and vents negativity about you to his mum, she will form a view about you naturally. And then when you reconcile, he won’t take it back or say nice things so all she hears is negative things and problems and hears how angry/sad her son is.

Your partner needs to find another way to vent and not tell his mum things in the heat of the moment that he can’t take back and will cloud her opinion of you. If he does that and she stops hearing negatives all the time then maybe you can work on rebuilding a positive relationship.

Do you need someone so bad you don’t care he hasn’t got your back, doesn’t put you first?
It’s not her - it’s him

There's no future in a relationship with a man who calls you names and says horrible things about you. You don't want to split up the family but ask yourself - is this what you want your children to learn to accept as normal in their own relationships?

This isn’t ever going to get better. once a partner tells there parents things regarding their relationship there’s no going back and the parents will always remember and hold a grudge. If your partner isn’t nice to you why are you still with him?