Partner is a taker

[Minidaisy]

I feel like my partner is a taker. I am always listening to his issues and about his ailments and doing errands for him. I drive everywhere as he has a knee issue but he won’t lose weight or do the physio exercises which was recommended by his doctors and the hospital. I don’t feel I get the same back. I am fed up of being taken advantage of and deserve more. We haven’t been on holiday together for nearly 2 years because he had to work part time due to his ailments or is off sick on reduced pay. He worked full time before. I didn’t think this relationship would be like this.

How long have you been together?

End it if your not happy

2 and a half years. He is a kind person but nothing ever changes.

Leave. You’ll just end up as his carer. Nothing will change.

Yep!

Nurse with a purse.

What are your retirement plans?

It will never change if you carry on giving whilst he gives little or nothing back. You act like a mother type figure to him

You only need to give your own self permission to leave.

That could be me in terms of the p/t and not driving. Except that it's my DH that doesn't want to on holiday and he's a control freak when it comes to driving.

He might be taking but resentful giving isn't nice to live with either. The best thing for both of you is to separate.

Do you share a home or live separately?

So leave, no?

Live separately so spend time together on weekends.

When was the last time he brought you a bunch of flowers?

Easy to take a step back from the relationship a bit then. He is too reliant on you so start being unavailable, and see how he reacts. You'll soon find out whether it is you he's missing, or your chauffeuring skills.

A few weeks ago. He does buy me flowers every few months.

You are not compatible.
Stop wasting your time.
Time to move on.

Not married? Take account now of the situation. Big men rarely have the ambition to slim down and usually are big all their lives. You will not be able to move him around

I was in a similar situation to yourself, very recently and the only advice i could offer is having sometime to think, maybe a break?

Dump the useless lump. He's taking the piss.

You are setting yourself up to be his carer. End it ... you do deserve better.