Confused what he wants ?

[Messeduplady]

So I reconnected with someone I used to know and we’ve met about 4 times.

we message everyday and he initiated all of the meet ups. He works away a lot and sometimes I don’t see him for 2 weeks at a time because when he’s back he’s only back for a couple of days and he’s busy catching up on stuff.

Ive started to really like this guy but I have no idea where I stand. Every time we’ve met he’s never initiated anything physically but he’s now started being flirty over message.

I’ve tried dropping a few hints by trying to ask if he likes me but he avoids it quite a bit - yet his flirtyness says otherwise.

im so confused where I stand. Part of me is like why would he message everyday and flirt with me if he doesn’t like me? But on the other hand why am I the only one who wants to see eachother and he’s not squeezing me in to his free time.

any advice what to do would be appreciated.

From experience I would say that if you’re confused about what a man wants, that’s because he’s not that bothered about you. If he’s really interested, it will generally be clear. He’s happy to send flirty texts but he’s not that bothered about seeing you - that tells you what you need to know.

Maybe because it’s nice having that self-esteem boost of someone to message all day every day?
you’ve said that he’s been the one to initiate all the meet-ups but then later say he’s not squeezing you in, so it’s hard to know if he is interested or not.
I’d probably just make myself busy so I didn’t think so much about his messaging, and maybe spend less time chatting? I know it can be utterly intoxicating though!

@Dery @Treesinthewind yes it’s really confusing. I just think if it was me I’d want to squeeze in some time between trips if I like someone. I probably need to back off from him but it’s just so frustrating

Yes you would because that’s what you do when you like someone. He’s telling you loud and clear he’s not that interested or he would prioritise seeing you. Believe his actions not his words. He’s just keeping you sweet as an option for him and potentially a quick shag if he feels like it. Don’t let him do that to you. Bin! 🗑️

we message everyday and he initiated all of the meet ups.

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But on the other hand why am I the only one who wants to see eachother and he’s not squeezing me in to his free time

I’m confused, which is it?

Maybe he’s tired of being the one to initiate?

@bobbinrobinbobbin

he initiated the first 4 meet ups - since then he has no time to see me due to work.

i always mention us seeing eachother but as his time is more limited than mine I leave it up to him to let me know. What I mean is that the 2/3 days that he’s home inbetween he doesn’t suggest seeing me.

Married

I once ended up in a similar situation and it never improved.

I would dial back the daily texting and be less available. He’s seeing you when it suits him at the moment and I’d be wary of him having another partner or wife when he is supposed to be so busy.

I would start wondering if he's lining you up for sexting and naked pictures while he's away as he has a girlfriend or fwb for sex already.

If a man likes you then you know. There's no confusion or doubt.