Lost myself.. should I end things?

[nothappy268]

Hi, I've been seeing a guy for around 6 months. Everything was good at the start. Had a bit of drama with his ex (has children) but I was happy.

Now I've completely lost myself and my confidence is at rock bottom. He lives with me Sunday-Friday and has children on the weekends so I understand him not contacting me much.

he leaves early morning for work and stays at the pub until around 9-10 most nights and comes back for a bath and has his tea. Then time for bed.. he regularly ignores my calls and seems to only contact me if he needs something.

we used to go out but now cancels last minute, no more talk of meeting friends and family etc.

i am putting him before myself and making him a priority when he seems to have no respect and I'm clearly not on his priority list.

im shocked at what I've been willing to put up with/accept. I need to work on myself as I was not like this before and in previous relationships.

any advice would be appreciated as I'm going to try to end things as I'm really unhappy.

Firstly you're going to end the relationship and kick him out, yes? How long had you been together before he moved in? This is honestly crazy.

It’s beyond crazy. To the point where I’m questioning the validity of the story (sorry).

OP, after you’ve kicked him out, you need to do some serious reflecting to work out how on EARTH you allowed this to happen.

The good thing is that you’ve wised up now
He’s taking the absolute piss.
it’s all very convenient for him isn’t it?
Now he’s not even bothering with you
End it with this parasite today and your confidence will soar
You deserve so much better

I think you know that he is damaging to your wellbeing. Please dump him now. You will be so much better off without him.

And out he goes .........

Also doesn't pay/contribute anything

Think we all guessed that without it heeding your be said. He’s an absolute piss taking cocklodger using you for a free roof over his head with his dinner cooked and sex on tap. Honestly OP you really need to kick his freeloading arse out and then stay away fro
dating until you can raise your bar from the basement - he’s treating you as a doormat and you’re positively begging him to wipe his feet on you.

Hes laughing at you and not even hiding it

Don't feel bad. We all put up with stuff we shouldn't, but you know what to do.

You might need therapy or just a good mate who will celebrate his departure.😃

Can’t believe what I have just read, I would kick him out, he is just using you and Dosen’t really want to spend any quality time with you, he gets sex and his tea/ dinner and other than that has no interest in you
Cone to your senses and raise your standards he is a complete CF

Let me guess. You didn't invite him to live with you during the week, he just moved himself in.

Well now he can move himself out.

If he lives with you Sunday to Friday he has somewhere else to live on Saturdays. Tell him not to come back today, I almost guessed he wouldn't be paying towards bills. Did he ever cook you a meal.

Thanks for all the support and advice guys! He's gone now and I feel relieved and looking forward to becoming a better version of myself before the relationship started.

Well done OP. Onwards and upwards.

You don’t cook his dinner for him do you?

Not anymore 🤦‍♀️🤣

Well done!
He’s an absolute fool to think his behaviour would be tolerated for very long but unfortunately people like him don’t seem to learn from their mistakes

brilliant … you must feel like a huge weight has been lifted from you… well done OP, you have had a lucky escape… good luck for the future 🍀