Hi everyone,
for a bit of context. Ive been with DH for 5 years, almost married for 4. Husband hasn’t been the most supportive. I feel like it’s one rule for one one for me. If I’m poorly I have to crack on, he gets to go to bed and do what he wants, im with the kids. I went on antidepressants after my pregnancy and was so poorly and had to just crack on, I had to return to work 12 weeks postpartum as husband had left the army and we ended up in debt resulting in my early return to nursery work still recovering to dig him out of debt, this resulted in me having to take out credit to keep our heads afloat. Husband is currently having a flare up with his cyclothmia (mild bipolar) and is back on his medication and he is struggling with the effects, he is coming in from work and just going to bed because he is tired, thanking me for being so kind and patient. I had a period of ill health a little while ago and had to take some time off work. He then told me he’s struggling, feels sad and isn’t happy with life. I’m irresponsible with money and my work ethic is poor, bear in mind I returned when I wasn’t even recovered to dig him out of a hole and hadn’t even bonded properly with my baby and I was struggling with money because I had so many minimum payments coming out just for us to survive him leaving the army. I guess what im trying to say is im hurting. Ive had my struggles totally thrown in my face, and as for his comments on my work ethic he’s now facing disciplinary at work, he could lose his job. It feels like a smack in my face. Ive had my genuine struggles and all he’s done is disrespect me. We’re working on things but I just feel so upset that ive had to go through what I have for him to judge me and now for him to be experiencing the same with no judgement. I explained to him we are a team and we always get through. But it’s never felt like that towards me.