Sister scenario ( how unoriginal!!)

[miserylovescompanyishoukdknow]

My sister is better than me in every way . More attractive, financially successful lots of friends and invitations.
I am fat frowsy and have always been in her shadow.
I have not spoken to her after a drunken argument 2 months ago
My nephew is getting married tomorrow and I should be looking forward to it but am dreading how to cope.
If I'm true to form I'll sulk skulk and generally behave like a worse case teenage girl.
My sister will be like a ray of sunshine a breath of fresh air.
Obviously I'm not going to even try to compete but how can I get through the day with some semblance of dignity?
There's some kind of blockage in me that I don't know how to overcome

I can bet you her life is no where near as perfect as you think.
You can be dignified by smiling and making the best of the day for your nephew’s sake.
Long term, I would look at therapy. You need to focus on yourself instead of constantly comparing yourself to her.
(Edited after rereading and seeing you said you wouldn’t be trying to compete).

Then don’t be true to form! Do something different! Put on a brave face and try to enjoy yourself and be the best version of yourself. You’ll have a much better time if you do. She’ll be very busy tomorrow as the mother of the groom, so the focus won’t be on your argument two months ago. Let it go and move on.

Ha!! She's not the mother of the groom it's my brothers son who's getting married.
I'm a hideous sulker and can already feel the sulk coming on!!
Ahhhgg yes I need therapy but it won't halogen before 1pm tomorrow!!!

Ah OP this time tomorrow it will be all over. I can just imagine the anxiety you are feeling tonight. Try and get a good nights sleep. Try to smile and say nice things. If anything negative comes into your mind just tell yourself not to say it out loud. I have a family member who brings the absolute worst out in me and now if they say or do things to annoy me I just tell myself to ignore it. Think of your nephew who you have seen grow up and tomorrow is a special day for him. Good luck, let us know how you get on.

Thankyou !! I'll try my hardest to take your advice!!!

Sulking is ridiculous and actually only affects you. Noone else cares and will ignore you. Grow up

Yes I know you're right but I don't know what's wrong with me I can prepare to be civil and pleasant but suddenly I decline an awful sulking mess. I'm absolutely different in every other sphere of of my life.
I'd love to grow up. Hope it happens overnight

I think you need counselling to unravel how your parents festered a competitive dynamic between you two and effectively killed any chance of a sibling bond. Have you ever heard of the golden child versus the scapegoat sibling dynamic? Look into it.
You've been robbed of one of the best relationships there can be (when healthy and encouraged by the parents). I hope you can repair it.

Do everyone a favour and make an excuse not to go. Pretty sure you’ve got food poisoning.

by the sounds of it people will be relieved

Just think about the couple who are getting married. Please don’t sulk.

I understand your situation perfectly. I've also got a sister like that, but fortunately we haven't had any contact since she emigrated to the other side of the world a few decades ago. And I'd be the same as you if I had to spend time in her company.

For tomorrow, could I suggest some sort of prop. What I'd do is get people to focus on anything but my mood. For example, I'd put my arm in a sling and say I've temporarily wrenched my wrist or elbow, then any evident grumpiness on my part I'd explain away as pain that comes and goes. Maybe you could think of something like that to distract people.

(Though my sister is also smug about being better than me, so I'd take my walking stick and hope to trip her up. Bad, I know.)

My sister is the same, financially successful, more attractive and lots of friends and I'm so proud of her! Why is competing or loss of dignity your first reaction? Maybe you should get some counselling to help and I say that kindly.

How awesome you are acknowledging this! Don’t ruin the day for others, please. You’re a grown up, you can do it for a few hours. Go home and be gross, but be wonderful for the wedding, it’s not about you.

and yes, get some therapy :)

rescue remedy for tomorrow

my sister is skinny, rich, beautiful, brainy, everything I’m not. However, I have pretty awesome qualities too, and work very hard being my best version. I love how different we are and how supportive we are of each other

What was the “drunken row” about?

How did it go??