Never saying anything directly - feel like I’m losing my mind.

[spicemaiden]

If you had made a decision on something (not illegal, not hurting anyone, just walking away from a situation because you were being used) that was nothing to do with your partner, but your partner disagreed and stuck his nose into the situation behind your back, would you feel betrayed? And if you asked him why he was doing it, if he said ‘because I’m not a cunt with no moral compass’ - would you feel he was actually calling you a cunt? He insists that this doesn’t mean he’s calling me a cunt.

He does this kind of thing all the time - says things indirectly so he has plausible deniability. Or that’s how it seems.

Am I just too sensitive?

No, you're not too sensitive.

Why are you with this person?

Tell him you're dumping him because he's an interfering cunt.
Never doubt yourself over the worthless thoughts of some man.

Yanbu girl

I've been 5 years free of people like that and I ain't never going back! Ltb x

This strikes me as "secondary behaviour" as it's called in children. He's got you arguing about whether or not he called you a cunt- and being snug that "that's not technically what I said" but the primary issue is that he's got involved in something you'd rather he didn't and you feel betrayed.

Has he acknowledged or apologised for that?

Or even explained why he feels differently to you in a way that's respectful of your feelings?

Or is he just just dismissing you entirely?

If it's the latter, I wouldn't like being treated or talked to like that and I don't think you're being sensitive

He's an interfering nob.
Loving every second of getting involved behind your back very betraying and very spiteful in my opinion.

Bye Felicia is what I'd be saying

You’re not being too sensitive. It reads to me like he actually is suggesting you’re a cunt.

He’s never ever done anything but dismiss me.

m I’ve never ever been allowed to say how I’m feeling and be heard.

m and yhd BEST he can reply to that complaint is ‘You dont FEEL heard’

Im , shouty, butter cow at this point.

Most of the time I don’t even want to be here anymore.

Never ever apologised.

He’s never apologised for anything.

I can’t even say ‘you’ve hurt me’ without being told it’s not his problem, he can’t help my feelings etc.

m Ivd turned into a horrible person.

I spend my weekends disassociating or yelling at him to get out of my life.

It sounds like he should be out of your life.......
Make it happen.

There are lots of people on here who will hold your hand if you need advice and support to separate from this utter bastard. You can do it.