I’ve discovered last week that not only my dh views images of naked women /porn, but also typed a sex chat website on history where you can exchange nude photos/videos of yourself and receive from others. Porn is one thing, but talking with actual real women is another. The pain is nothing like what I’ve experienced.
Porn has always been a big no in our marriage as we are a religious family. I asked over the years if he has ever been tempted, or if it’s an issue , but he always said he doesn’t care for it. The reason I felt to ask is because something always felt off in the sexual department. He never seemed that into me. We have been married a long time, he is the most kindest man I know, but we always had the problem with me feeling he doesn’t desire me.
Anyway I feel clueless and stupid. He is the only one I’ve been with so need you ladies help.. he obviously been lying to me which I’m still in disbelief over, but if he never had that desire for me (it was me always initiating but he didn’t seem comfortable or highly anxious) strange q but do you think it sounds like he was already addicted to porn when we got married and hence why I never seemed to turn him on matter how hard I tried?
I’ve been reading that it rewires the brain so men are not attracted to their partner, and need that dopamine hit from online. I’m trying to figure out if he’s been speaking with women from the beginning of our marriage. I still can’t believe this is happening but would make sense. Why wouldn’t he come to me saying he has a problem when he knew how desperately lonely and rejected I felt.
I still haven’t confronted him yet. Ladies who have been through this awful ordeal , I need your advice. When I do talk to him, what is the best method? I need the truth, not half truths. What questions should I ask him?
It seems as though he use to do this behaviour on his laptop, but now everything done via his iPhone which he is glued to. How can I find out more hidden info as I don’t think I will get the full truth when I do confront him soon.