He’s left and I don’t know what to think

[Summer2525]

Hello
So my partner of 15 years has walked out on me and the kids and I’m left devastated and picking up the pieces.
We had a heated argument (who doesn’t every now and again) and he told me he doesn’t want to be with anyone or answer to anyone after 15 years! That was it, a flippant remark after all this time. He didn’t ask to talk about anything, chat with the kids or to explain anything. Just left and moved back in with his parents. It’s so hurtful. I’m left to deal with all the kids emotions. A tiny bit of background, he’s always been a mummy’s boy and has gone back to hers on a few occasions when we’ve argued and She welcomes him with open arms. He’s never been able to communicate very well. I’m so angry and hurt right now. I’ve told him he can see the kids on certain days and he has, but apart from that we’ve had no contact. I’ve set boundaries to protect myself and the kids. He’s just been on holiday and looks like he’s living his best life all the while I feel I’m struggling and he’s absolutely fine! After all that time and 3 children.
I’m not sure what I’m asking for, I don’t know if anyone’s been in a similar situation and can offer some words of comfort? Just super hurt and confused right now,

It's usually another woman.

I would consider formalising all contact arrangements so he does not continue to come and go into your home as he pleases.

What is the situation re the finances and property?. Look at entitled to website.

Also commence a maintenance claim for his children.

So I’ve thought about another woman but he was never secretive with his phone. Always left it on the side and would always let the kids play with it. But I maybe naive with that, I don’t know.

Do not allow him to come back. A man who walks in and out is worse than one who leaves permanently.

Do you own the house? Are you financially independent?
Put a claim in with CMS for your kids maintenance.

He will be back they always are , please be strong , I’ve wasted the last 2 years going back and forth and not set a good example to my kids ! It’s taken me a mental breakdown to finally break free
hindsight is a wonderful thing

It doesn’t matter whether there is another woman ir not. He abandoned you and the children. Don’t let him off. Formalize and finalize the solit. You will feel better if you can say “he didn’t fire me, I fired him.”

I agree especially if there are kids involved.

I’m sorry you’re going through this but it sounds like this relationship hasn’t been working for a while.

I would use this as a chance to separate for good and start making a new life for yourself.

What a weapons-grade arsehole. Grey rock him and focus on living YOUR best life. You are well rid of him - only a coward and a shitbag just walks away from their responsibilities to their kids without a backwards glance like this. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but in a year or two you will realise you’re much better off without an immature manchild in your life.