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LEAVING EX

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Berosey54432 · 03/04/2025 05:52

Unmarried couples I need advice.

When you separated with a joint mortgage.

My ex partner agreed I could buy him out. We have two children together for context. We’ve lived together for most part of 9 years and had a mortgage for over 5 years.

However he is reluctant to move out as he “can’t find anything on the market” but his budget due to his low paid job won’t get them anything like what we jointly own together.

I think we may be ‘tenants in common’ on our mortgage deeds.

He knows I do not have any power to enforce anything as he has just as much right to be here as I do.

I suggested selling if it meant moving quicker but he said he would refuse every sale.

What do I do next?

It’s keeping me up at night. I just want to move forward with my life but I don’t know how to.

OP posts:
supercali77 · 03/04/2025 06:08

Sorry, so he's fine for you to buy him out but not to sell and split the proceeds??

Berosey54432 · 03/04/2025 08:13

Yeah that’s right. I think I should get a solicitor?

OP posts:
SapphOhNo · 03/04/2025 12:17

You'll need legal advice but you can push legally for an order of sale via the courts but that will be expensive.

You could say to him you are prepared to take it to court and confirm the fees are expensive so its in both your interests to find an agreement. Would giving him slightly more from the sale get rid of him? Would that be worth it to you? e.g if i court case is 15k giving him half that more in the sale of the house etc.

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