Do people just keep kids and partners separate until kids grow up?

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I've been separated from my DC's father for years, and have been with my partner for a few years. My youngest dc is now 13, and has disabilities including behavioural problems. I'm disabled myself. My partner is very supportive at a distance, but doesn't want us to move in together because my DC's behaviour is so difficult. My DC can be physically and verbally abusive.

I love my partner and see a future together eventually, but I can't progress the relationship at the moment because of my DC's difficult behaviour.

Has any one else been in this situation? Do you wait until the kids grow up? Even when my DC grows up, I don't know if he will be independent. Am I destined to just be alone?

I think how you phrase it to yourself is important here, you can be in a relationship and not live with them. In many cases trying to blend is incredibly stressful particularly in your circumstances .
Do you have any support with your dc?

I'm mostly here on my own which I'm finding increasingly difficult