Scared my partner is checking out teenagers

[Mooninlibra]

Hi,

I am 38 weeks pregnant and have been having really bad anxiety during this third trimester. A few years ago I found out my dad was looking at inappropriate images of children online, this really traumatized me and when I told my then partner he did not support me and just found it funny, so we ended up breaking up.

Since getting pregnant with my current partner, I have been very paranoid that he could also be attracted to underage girls especially after finding out we are having a daughter. Recently we were sitting in a resturant and I saw my partner look someone up and down so turned to look and a girl maybe around 10 years old who was wearing shorts and a cast on her leg was standing there, a little while later he looked over again and then i saw him looking behind him and I was worried he was trying to look for her so I pointed it out. We ended up having an argument about it, he said he was just looking because she had a massive cast on her leg. Yesterday we were in a supermarket and some kids in uniform came in and he looked at one of the girls, then driving home, a teenager in shorts was walking by and I saw him staring as she walked.
I got worried again and it made him upset saying he does not like how I see him and wants us to go to couples therapy as he thinks I don't trust him because of my past history with men.

I can't stop thinking about these incidents but I am not sure if it's hormones and I'm paranoid and overthinking it all. He has adhd so he does look around at people alot, but as I'm having a daughter i just feel so scared and protective. Please could you advise?

How old were the children he was looking at op? Not that it matters I’m just shocked you say the police haven’t done anything ? I thought they took this kind of thing extremely seriously

Supposedly it would be to do with what the pictures were. If they were sexual in nature absolutely. But if it was children in swimwear from retail catalogues, or people posting their kids in the bath on social media for instance, you could probably piece what the persons interest was and see it as immoral but there’s no actual crime committed.

No,I’ve had help with ocd, I did think the same about social services getting involved but you’ve got to remember you want the help; leaving it will only make things worse, I didn’t have social services involved with mine, as long as they see u accept it and wanting help it’s the best u can do for yourself and kids

OCD is mind crippling ain’t it, it goes for the loved ones u love the most, wen I was diagnosed it was a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, OP ask for a book recommendation from your gp, it’s an eye opener for sure

I look at people all the time!

Based on the OP I am a peado who also likes old people, fat people, people with bright clothes....