Daughter not speaking to us

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Our son in law was aggressive towards us in our own house after we asked him to not allow his employees to use our equipment and to use it himself, we are in our 60's and it has really shocked us. We banned him from the house, but now DD has taken his side and now won't speak to us, saying if he's not allowed she won't visit us either. Prior to his being involved with our daughter we had a great, loving relationship with her, but she's changed so much since being with him

Did you want advice, or just venting?

It's all very vague, but if you've banned her husband from your house it's understandable she wouldn't be keen to visit.

Why would his employees be using your equipment? I'm confused. How was he aggressive?

Looking for advice. We have a family company and he asked to use the pressure washer equipment which we said yes to, but he turned up with 3 of his men, he left and the men abused the equipment. Garlicgarlicgarlic, he's been banned because he was so agressive with us.

If he's aggressive with you, imagine what being married to him is like. She must have had to cut you off

Let her know she's always got a place with you if she ever needs it.

Sadly if he is aggressive with you over something like that he is more than likely more aggressive with your daughter.

She is probably being forced to cut you out. Keep in touch with her and make sure she knows she is always welcome in your home.

It's very difficult to say without having been there. My exIL's were regularly aggressive to both me and their ex-son in law (their daughters husband) but would always play the victim and say that others had been aggressive towards them. When in fact it was very much the reverse.

Why don't you ask your daughter to meet you for a coffee somewhere neutral?