I’ve been with my husband 11 years, we have a daughter 3 and I have a son from a previous. I have been very lucky growing up as I have come from quite wealthy parents who help me in every way possible. They got me my cars, helped me when I was left pregnant with my eldest & helped with a deposit for our house. My husband and I have been going through real tough times & it’s pretty much make or break. We are selling our house & im unsure I want to move and carry the relationship on, I’ve been unhappy for a while and can’t move to new and feel the same. My husband never listens & if everything is going his way he’s nice as pie but if something doesn’t suit he changes.
falling out he tells me how I’m incapable of doing anything and it’ll be my dad sorting everything out if we split. He says I’m useless just like my sister and son. He’s happy to use my dad’s money to benefit him eg deposit for our house but if things turn nasty he’s quick to remark how pathetic I am that I cant fund myself. He wanted me to agree to buy a house with him that I’ve not even looked at in an area I’m not that bothered for living. My son from a previous doesn’t live with us now him & my husband have zero relationship. My husband is mad cos I’m going away with my sister and my kids, he says we do everything separate & we should be going as a family. I asked him if it was ok for me to go 3 times & he said I could if I wanted to, he didn’t even want to go with our daughter yet as he wouldn’t be able to do what he wanted and he’d be stuck round a splash pool he says.
I’m getting really bad anxiety with it all, I feel like if I stay for my daughter I’m doing the wrong thing for my eldest son but if I leave I’m feeling so guilty on my youngest. My husband wants a fresh start in a new house and all I want more than anything is to have that family life and for my youngest to have his parents together. Help 🙁