Have you ever talked to the ex-wife about new partner (or vice versa)

[AnotherNaCha]

Wondering if anyone has ever gone to their new partner’s ex to ask about said new partner? Or vice versa, have you been the ex who’s been approached?

No, but there's probably a reason why you are asking.

I avoided it with my late husband's ex. She took every opportunity to try to belittle him and tried to persuade me to agree with her.

Dear god no.

But I’d talk to my ex’s wife if she ever contacted me. I hope he’s nicer to her 🙏

No, but I so wish I had! Although I wouldn’t have been able to hear what she would have said, as he was soooo convincing until he’d moved into my home and we had a child. She and I now get on great, since I dumped his serial domestic abuser ass!

Wish I could warn his current partner, but like I was, she’s probably taken in by his crazy ex(s), poor me stories. She will realise she has walked past a veritable forest of red flags in time. 😭

I once contacted a partner’s ex as I was so confused about his behaviour. She warned me without explicitly warning me in a really lovely, confidential way. And if his new partner ever contacted me, I’d do the same. We’re talking abuse here though

Oh no that’s not the spirit

I've told my ex and my grown up children that I think they're very lucky to have her husband in their lives. He's been so kind to my daughters right from day one. He came to help me home from hospital once when nobody else would and is always a pleasure to be around. If I died tomorrow I know he would step up and be there for my girls. I think that's more than can be said for some!