I’ve written posts about my partner before, and need some help. Before this relationship, I was in an extremely abusive relationship which has caused me trauma and I can find it difficult to unpick if my partner is just very down and stressed, or if in fact I am in another abusive relationship.
My partner is turning 50, hates his job, has a difficult relationship with his ex (and mother of his children). He isn’t handling life overly well and I’ve done my best to support him every way I can.
Yesterday, his car broke down, he phoned in tears and was very difficult about being collected from the side of the road. I dragged my kids out just before bedtime to go and get him. When I arrived, his only comment was to sneer at what I was wearing. Today, I offered to lend him my car when I wasn’t using it, if he needed to get about, or I could give him lifts, no problem. My car isn’t the most attractive, but it works.
Anyway, we went to go for a walk today, and was in the car park when he saw a friend- who proceeded to take the piss out of my car, and my partner joined in. After all I had done over the last 24 hours, I saw red and walked away, saying I was getting a ticket. My partner has now thrown a massive strop at me because “I didn’t take it in a good spirit” and has argued with me all day, blocked me on all platforms, and says he is ending the relationship. Am I being unreasonable? Is this just someone stressed excessively? Or is it borderline abusive behaviour?