Posted here and in divorce/separation thread for help so apologies in advance if that is not allowed.
Hi I’m new here. Was looking online for some support groups for separated moms and came across this site.
I'm not divorced but am legally sepatated. Almost 3 years now. Both my ex husband and I have moved on and are in other relationships.
It was my decision to leave the marriage. Lots of different reasons but the main one being what I now believe to be years of emotional abuse. I didn’t realize this until I started therapy but I also knew that it couldn’t be right for a husband to treat/speak to his wife like he treated and spoke to me. It shocked me that there are men who are actually respectful towards their other halves and I’m not exaggerating when I say that!
Even though it’s been 3 years since we separated I still feel that horrific guilt over breaking up my family and having to sell my kids home etc etc and there are some days I go to work feeling like I don’t even want to be in this world anymore, feeling I may have destroyed my kids lives (my kids tell me all the time they are fine btw and one of them is 21 now and the other is 14 so not small kids) but there are still a lot of days when I feel like I made the biggest mistake in the world but am still happy I don’t have to listen to someone mimic me or put me down daily and then I get to work and have to listen to people in my office still talk about separated couples like it’s some sort of disease!!! It’s like it’s said in a whisper like “oh they’re separated” like it’s a shocking bad thing and something to be ashamed of and that marriage is work and takes a lot of work etc etc. I know this my mom and dad were married for over 40 years!! But It seriously depresses me so much and makes me feel a million times worse cause I genuinely didn’t think I could change my marriage no matter how much work I put into it. We didn’t even love one another in the end.
How the heck do I cope in these situations or do I just get up and walk out. I’m honestly feeling like leaving my job because of it. Then if I say something to them all I get is “oh god ya people deserve to be happy”. Make up yer f*ing minds ladies!!!! Jeez sorry for the rant but just need to let off some steam 🤯