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Movie night for 2nd date…

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Whyyougottobeanonymous · 01/04/2025 13:22

Hi ladies

I’m very confused.

I know this guy through friends, we’ve only met once or twice out and about just to say hi.

saw him on OLD and matched. Hit it off and he’s lovely like I remember. Was meant to go out last weekend to dinner and drinks in the city but I was really unwell and didn’t want to cancel so suggested drinks locally instead.

he said he’s happy with that but then mentioned that he doesn’t mind if I want to go to his for a movie night to take the pressure off.

I was pretty rotten and felt bad cancelling as he’d planned a lovely date so I agreed. He was very gentlemanly and respectful. He didn’t make any moves as I’d said to him I’m not looking for anything like that.

we sat there talking for nearly 5 hours before I was nearly falling asleep and had to leave. We joked because I didn’t even touch the food or snacks he got as I was just too unwell.

he asked when I was free again and I confirmed this weekend. I was under the impression that we might go out as we had to cancel that part of the plan last time, but he suggested movie night and takeaway as we didn’t do it properly last time.

he is lovely and I’m actually in the city with some girls this weekend anyway so it works out nicely that I don’t have to go up there twice. But am I being pessimistic by thinking he just wants one thing which is why he’s invited me back round?

be very curious to see what others think. He’s such a lovely guy but I do feel slightly put out that we’re not doing something nicer.

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Notaboutthebass · 01/04/2025 13:31

Doesn't sound like he's just after one thing but he could be more inventive, so could you! Maybe he wanted something a bit more personal, I've been on loads of dates and it can be very frustrating trying to find a quiet spot in a pub. I don't like it being obvious that we're on a first date and you can't talk properly either.
If you want to go out just suggest it.

TwistedWonder · 01/04/2025 13:45

Personally I wouldn’t be going to a virtual strangers home after I’d only met them once.

Plus come to mine and watch a movie is just a bit low effort this early imo . I’d want a few actual dates first

Foxlovesfruit · 01/04/2025 13:48

Maybe he is a little skint at the moment and so suggested a date that might be gentler on his wallet (assuming you were either going halves or he was expecting to pay).

LadyDanburysHat · 01/04/2025 14:08

If you don't actually go out now at the very beginning of things, then it is going to end up some boring relationship where you constantly meet at each others places. Straight into boring long term couple type stuff. No excitement to dress up for dates or anything.

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