Age difference - dating younger man

[nicky8]

Has anyone ever dated a younger man before?

I have met someone who is 18 months younger than me, I’m 41 and he is 40 this year.

Normally I wouldn’t worry, but neither of us have children so wondered if it was worth pursuing because of my age as I think he wants children. I do too but obviously my age is against me.

Tbh he wants kids and hasn't. He hasn't met anyone in his many years of dating who wanted to have kids with him. So if he really wants them let him go find this mysterious woman who wants to have a baby with him. Chances are he can't. He most likely doesn't care tbh or he would have one already. Your overthinking it. Do not just start trying for a baby with a stranger as that's what 'they want'. Its what you want not him

I thought it was an 18 year gap! Because that would be an age gap.

I agree with pps: the important thimg here is your age re having children. And even that is questionable: lots of men have fertility issues that go unnoticed because the societal (and this includes the medical) "default" assumption is that it must be the woman's problem.

I opened this thread thinking this would be about a 10+ years age gap. Not 18 months. 18 months is nothing.

Jesus I thought this was going to be juicy. Boring, next. I thought you were going to say he was 26. 18months younger hardly qualifies as a "younger man".

why on earth are you fussing about 18mo?

ftr i've been 'seeing' someone 13 years my junior for 2 years.. he doesn't want kids, and i'm done at nearly 44. tis perfectly good fun .

How will you feel if he decides kids are a deal breaker and dumps you for someone younger if you don't conceive? Happened to me. Hurt like Hell. I would proceed with caution as you might get very hurt.

Not even a cougar growl.
Go for it.

18 months???

I thought you said 18 (yrs)

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18 months might be a problem if he was 14 and you were 16 or something 🤣 Anything above about 19 & it’s the same age!

That’s nothing for an age difference OP! My first OL dating experience was with someone 19 years younger than me! I knew I wasn’t looking at a forever relationship but boy was it fun! I’ve since had several relationships where the guys are 12 years or more younger than me. Also dated my own age but tried older once - big mistake!

Age these days is really just a number - just go for what you’re happy with and good luck ! X

I’ve only dated younger men! DH is 4 years younger, who would know unless you tell them?

OP, if this man was 18 months older than you, would you have started a thread here asking how to manage dating an older man?

Seriously, my husband is 7 years older and I don't even consider that dating with an age gap.

I think you're so focused on this supposed age gap because you're at the end of your fertility window and men don't have that problem. So despite being the same age, you're wondering if he wants different things.
Have you talked to him about it?
Does he mention wanting children?

If he still wants children, it's really up to him to say so in the early stages. My husband was 35 when we met and really wanted children, and so did I. I can't remember exactly, but we had that conversation within the first 3 dates.

My ex is 13 years younger than myself, he lied though about his age said he was 28 when we met when he was almost 24.
He's now 30 and I'm 43

18 months is nothing. When I saw the strapline I thought it was going to a proper age difference of a couple of decades, not a piffling 18 months.

Pointless thread really

18 months is nothing

My ex is 10 years younger 18 months is nothing.

Your title is wrong to be fair. It should be something like will this man who wants children stick around now I'm getting near the end of my fertile years? But if he's really focused on children, surely he wouldn't want to be with you longer term, so he could be wasting YOUR time, in the full knowledge he has plenty of time to have a child with someone who is actually a lot younger than you later on.

You're going to have to have the conversation and hope he says what he really thinks.

18 months?!

That's nowt