Mother’s Day gift gone wrong

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I was excited as hubby booked a weekend away for the kids and I. I’ve just finished a crazy work project so it was to help me relax and a Mother’s Day gift. The plan was he would drive us there Saturday morning. It was only a night away so we would pack in the morning. Friday night he pours me a drink or two after I finish work as a pre weekend celebration. But I’m really tired so I don’t drink much but hubby says come on let’s have a a few drinks. Anyway he got rather drunk. And we don’t really drink. Next morning he’s feeling too rough to drive. I’m fine as I just had a couple drinks. He argues he will still drive but I worked out a) he’s probably still over the limit (well boarder line) and (b) I’m concerned he doesn’t look well. This Is proven further by the fact he can’t get out of bed so I end up packing for the kids, him and me. The journey should take 2 hours but every 20 minutes I had to stop so he could throw up and wait 30 minutes while he caught his breath. We get to the destination which is somewhere to go shopping and sightseeing but he’s too sick so I go with the kids and he sleeps in the car. 3 hours later he’s fine and says let’s make the most of the weekend. I drive on to our hotel which is lovely. We go for a lovely meal and I try and forgive the mornings episode. Fast forward to mother day and we go for a walk and decide to get lunch. We can’t decide on a place for lunch because hubby wants a pasty and no where for it sat down. So i suggest as it’s so nice we get some takeaway and sit and eat by the harbour. But I really need the toilet which is a few building up so I pop to the toilet only to come back and find hubby and kids have bought themselves lunch and have almost finished eating it when i get back. On the way back i had found somewhere I thought we would all like but obviously no point now. I ended up not getting lunch and just had an ice cream with the kids. We drove home and all o get fro hubby is how disappointed he is with himself. No conversation but just him going on and then when I say what about how i feel he gets annoyed and walked off slamming the door. I don’t know how to feel about what happened. Was I ok to be upset about the weekend?

Well it was crap because he made it all about him. Drank too much amd was ill. Unable to go out with you, dictated what you ate the didn’t get you lunch. I’d be really disappointed in him too he spoilt it for everyone.

I know exactly how to feel about it. He’s a selfish thoughtless twat. He sabotaged the weekend and ruined what was supposed to be a treat.

Why didn’t you get lunch?!

Don’t tolerate any of his bloody stropping, he has no right to a manipulative self indulgent sulk. What an utter prick.

Is this wildly unusual behaviour from him? Seems unlikely.

He SHOULD be disappointed with himself. Tell him to stop wallowing and arrange a do-over, assuming you can spare the money. He ruined the trip.

Of course it’s ok to be upset. He didn’t behave well and he knows it. He just can’t tolerate you agreeing with him. But that’s a him issue.

What an absolute arsehole. I’m so sorry

I feel bad for you. I feel worse for your children. That is really shitty behaviour for any weekend.

@AnneLovesGilbert
i didn’t eat because he didn’t realise why I was annoyed. He was trying to suggest we go and sit somewhere and I could order something but it was getting super busy. I was just feeling hurt and lost my appetite and didn’t fancy sitting and eating while they sat and watched me. The idea of that made me upset. I then found myself bursting into tears which is not like me. Then my kids were worried about me so I suggested we get an icecream.

to note since we been home he’s argued about why I was annoyed despite him doing what I suggested. I told him that it wasn’t I needed to sit in a restaurant or even him buying lunch it was the fact he couldn’t just wait for me to come back so we could get something together even separately he didn’t give the option to sit and have it together

He knows it was shit, and he knows it was him who made it shit so he's wallowing in self pity. But he was lamenting because he was expecting you to let him off the hook with a "there there, it was fine honestly!"

When you turn around and agree that yes it was pretty shit actually, that leaves him nowhere to go except to face it, so he's stropped off. Lovely.

@MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking I’m not sure where I go from here x

Your poor children having to endure a car journey with that loser.

He sounds absolutely ghastly.