I am Emonatinally breakdowned

[poojasharma19999]

i am in a relationship from last 8 year and in livin from 7 year but In the last 3 years, he has had many casual relationships apart from me... I feel very insecure and at the same time I want to spend my whole life with him by marrying him... but I feel that now he is not happy with me and wants to go away from me. I love him very much and he also accepts this fact. How can this relationship be fixed?

What do you mean by casual relationship? Is he having sex with other women?

If that’s a yes and he’s cheating then why would you want to marry a man who doesn’t give a shit about you?

I don't think it can be, if he is shagging around and you are looking for marriage and security. You need to find someone who wants the same as you do.

It can't keep your self respect and leave

It can't be fixed. Leave him and find someone who respects and loves you back - he doesn't.

What do you get from it? How does he treat you? How does him sleeping with other women make you feel? Does he stay with them and then come back to you?

From your title and your opening post it sounds like you're at the end of your tether, emotionally beaten down by him and you're getting nothing back from the relationship. He's having a whale of a time going out sleeping around and he's still got his servant at home for him when he gets back....?

That's not a relationship, that's abuse and you're only going to feel worse. There is nobway back, it's already gone too far.

It sounds like you already know that and it's time to end it and walk away with your head held high.

Why do you love someone who treats you so badly?

I’m sorry to say it can’t be fixed. You want monogamy and marriage. He wants to be with other women. There can be no trust or contentment even if you do end up marrying him. He will have affairs, and things will get worse if you have children with him. And it’ll ultimately destroy you. I’m sorry you’ve given him 7 years of your life, but don’t waste any more time, care and love on him. Leave him and give yourself time to heal. Find someone for whom you are enough and who treats you like an equal.

its a very dicey situation because its hard to tell someone who , how and when to love. i just want you to see yourself as priority and choose you first

cheers.

Well, either you think being with him is so great you can accept him shagging around on you, or you dump the cheating bastard & move on with your life to find happiness elsewhere.

You can't "fix" a relationship on your own, and it doesn't seem like he wants to. And why would he, when he gets to act like a single guy and still have you to come home to?

Why do you think you're worth so little and he's such a prize?

Dont know if he is having sex with other but he has a dream to live like a playboy.....he have shared with me many times plus he loves 2 girls too much but those girls are not connected with him, he financialy help me

thanks true but i am emoaitnally too week , it seems like i can;t live without him

You're in a one sided open relationship. You can't change him but you can accept he cheats if you want to stay with him. He doesn't love you as much as you love him. Make sure you get regular STD checks and use condoms.

i am not geeting him properly, he says that he dont want to marry with me but he will help me financialy untill i get success and he ask to to get marrige someone else if needed

he was i good person in starting 5years of our relationship is like haven, but after he statrted making good money he started such things

He'll get you someone else to marry if needed?

very confused

Bin him.

Claw back a shred of dignity.

I presume by your posts that you’re not British and you’re from another culture

It’s difficult to advise more than what’s already been said if there’s such a huge cultural difference outside of what’s considered normal here

Have you seriously tried? He doesn't respect you or love you. Up to you whether or not you carry on as you are or leave. He won't suddenly decide he's madly in live with you and will reform to be the man you want him to be.

OP, you would be more likely to get help from someone from your own culture. By the standards of most UK women, your partner is behaving very badly, will never never make you happy, and you need to get away from him. Good luck.