Feet gave me the ick.

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I've had one date and several video calls with a guy I met a month ago that lives out of my area. He's spending a week in London on holiday and invited me to join him. As I'm certainly not ready to spend a week with him, I compromised and agreed a day. He messages daily and we've exchanged quite flirty messages and I feel that he has increasingly been thinking that we might both end up in his hotel room. The more I think about this, the more I get a bit uneasy as I don't have great body confidence and it's not as if I'm completely smitten although I like his humour and we vibe OK. He sent me a photo a few days ago and his feet gave me the ick. How can I bow out of this whole situation tactfully? I'd rather cut all ties as it will feel like a relief.

Hmmmm feet are tricky for me too. I declined to “date” 2 men becuse of their feet…fungus toenails on one and ginormous bunion on the other guy (and he was eating Doritos I have posted this before) DH has very nice feet. So are the feet really the issue or is it that he is pushing the relationship forward too fast…hotel room etc. if its too much too soon cancel these plans and plan something closer to home with no “hotel room vibes” and if you really don’t like his feet then cancel and later text you are not interested in dating right now. Some people do say…feet are indicative of overall hygiene

Tactfully doesn’t come into it. You’ve only had one date and some calls and he’s not local, so simply message to say you’ve changed your mind so don’t want to keep in touch any more and wish him all the best. Then block and move on. Don’t bring his feet into the matter. He’ll be back on the apps and you could easily have met someone else anyway for all he knows. Don’t overthink it. Keep it short and clear and feel the relief instead of the ick.

OP, you do realise you owe this guy nothing. You're just too nice.
Just msg and say, 'sorry, not feeling it/too busy' and then block before he has a chance to reply.

One of the first times I was with DH, his mate told me all about DH's gross feet and made him show me. Now I'm not a feet person at the best of times and yes his feet were pretty hideous. But you see, the person is lovely and I rarely get to see his feet, so they have grown on me and dont bother me at all now on the rare occasions I see them.

If you like the person, then not nice looking body parts can be overlooked, particularly feet unless he permanently walks around in sandals or bare feet. I'm sure I have body parts that arent great looking.

If its just a reason not to see them again then dont.

Bit mean to cut him off cause he doesn't have pretty feet!

Is that really all that's wrong?

Once you've got the ick...

I once binned a bloke because he'd got some false teeth. Couldn't get past it.

"I don't think we are compatible, all the best"

Block 🚫