Please help me to understand

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DH & I are fortunate to have a great relationship with our son & Dil. We regularly care for our grandchildren & despite the fact we are still working we fit them all in. There are 4 children involved. We collect 2 of them from school. The other grandparents help with the babies as do we when they can't manage
One of the children has taken to being moody & huffy for no apparent reason. She is 6rys old & without being too dramatic she could almost qualify as Wedenday in a school play. She has everything she could ever want with two professional parents who work hard to ensure they have the best life can offer including their extracurricular activities which they excell at. This child was the youngest until her new baby sister arrived. We understand there could be jealousy here but at the same time her parents & I go overboard to ensure she isn't left out etc. If anyone has any advice as to how to get through to this child given the fact she is basically spoiled it would help.us going forward

Look for the hurt behind the behaviour. Maybe she doesn't care about having professional parents, maybe she just wants to feel loved and that she matters.

Next time you see her being moody ask her if she's OK, is anything wrong, and does she understand why she feels like she's in a huffy mood. Do that in a neutral and non judgemental way.
You can also explain that being moody wont get her what she wants, the mature way to behave is to say how you feel or ask for what you want.
She might not know why she's doing it, she might just feel a vague sense of dissatisfaction and be unable to articulate it. Be her ally, help her with that, and help her sort out a better way to manage conflicting feelings.

What do you mean get through to her - is she not replying / talking to you?

Or is it that you just don't like her having negative emotions?

Has anyone spoken to her about feelings of jealousy / that it's hard having a baby sibling?

Than you for replies so far. Interestingly I do believe when it's DH & I turning up after school to collect her she wishes it was mun or dad who both do their best

Little kids would prefer to have their parents around and attention from them rather than a lavish lifestyle

You can understand that they're doing their best - because you are an adult.

She is a six year old who sees her friends being picked up by parents and wishes she could be too.

Behaviour comes from feelings, feelings come from experiences. If you want to change behaviour you need to look beyond it to find out what she is feeling and why - and then address that.

I was just thinking this as soon as I read...

"She has everything she could ever want with two professional parents who work hard to ensure they have the best life can offer including their extracurricular activities which they excell at."

No, that's everything her parents want.

What kids want is normally very different and of course impossible (if what they want is their mum and dad all the time).

There's not much you can do except reassure her but a bit more understanding from a child's perspective may also help.

I'm sure she'll grow out of it as it's probably just a phase.

Help her understand, accept, and process her feelings. Talk about them with her and let her know it’s ok she wants her parents and feels bad about that. Give her treats and be nice to her.