What is the best advice you know?

[nialetahc]

Hello everybody!
I am in a relationship with someone I love dearly.
However, I am wondering, what was the best advice relationship wise that someone has ever told you?

Grow up before you settle down.

Don’t ever limit yourself for a relationship.

If he is interested he will definitely text, and you will never be left guessing.

Take note of every red flag he shows you.

Watch what they do, not what they say.

If someone is upset or offended by your boundaries they are the very ones you need to set boundaries for

From my mother back when l was a teen;

1. If someone is doing something that doesn’t make you feel nice stop doing it.
2. There is nothing wrong with bodies, bodies are beautiful, but beware bad people.

Secrets are kryptonite in a relationship.
If you have a credit card debt and you haven’t told your partner… if you have a crush on someone and haven’t told your partner… if you hide things… if you can’t trust them with your truth… this will rot things from the inside. Trust them. They probably love you so much that they won’t mind.

But if you keep it a secret and it comes out later, the relationship is in big trouble.

Put yourself first. I don’t mean that in a mean or grabby way, but make sure you’re happy. Don’t make yourself unhappy/poorer/overworked etc. to make someone else happier/richer/more relaxed, etc. It’s good to be helpful, generous, and kind, but it’s a two way thing and if you’re not getting what you give leave.

OP from your other thread, and your comment on the ONS thread, you have been in a committed relationship since 15, you’re 19 now and evaluating how things are. It doesn’t have to be such hard work, you both could learn a lot about yourselves if you just take a step back.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

i.e. don’t continually believe the best of someone because you want to, if all evidence is to the contrary. Go off what you see now, not ‘what might be’ down the line.