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Found husband with Snapchat on phone

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Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:08

I found my husband on Snapchat with mainly naked women on it, over the years I’ve also found out he had accounts on adult works and web cam sites, do you consider this cheating? I’ve told him this is unacceptable but he won’t stop going on these sites

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mumoftwoboys321 · 25/03/2025 17:10

I have issues like this with my partner I feel it is a form of cheating but he doesn’t

Pastelhp · 25/03/2025 17:13

Yep, I wouldn’t stay with my husband if this was the case. More so because if I’ve explained how it makes me feel and he continues to do it, it’s clear he doesn’t respect me or care enough to stop

Wonderwhyy · 25/03/2025 17:14

I would definitely consider this cheating and wouldn't be with my husband if I knew he was doing this. Very disrespectful, I think anyway.

FidosMum84 · 25/03/2025 17:27

Of course this is cheating. If you’ve spoken to him and he won’t stop or seek help then leave. He doesn’t respect you.

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Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:37

FidosMum84 · 25/03/2025 17:27

Of course this is cheating. If you’ve spoken to him and he won’t stop or seek help then leave. He doesn’t respect you.

This has been going on for years and I’m so tired of it, time to make a change.

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Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:39

mumoftwoboys321 · 25/03/2025 17:10

I have issues like this with my partner I feel it is a form of cheating but he doesn’t

It’s awful isn’t it, so selfish of them, I’ve also caught my husband on sites where prostitutes advertise and he says he was just looking at their pictures, I like an idiot actually believed him

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Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:39

FidosMum84 · 25/03/2025 17:27

Of course this is cheating. If you’ve spoken to him and he won’t stop or seek help then leave. He doesn’t respect you.

I don’t think he can stop, it’s like an addiction

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simpledeer · 25/03/2025 17:42

I couldn’t have any respect for a man like that, never mind want to sleep with him. 🤮

Bin him.

Changingplace · 25/03/2025 17:44

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, if you consider this cheating and you don’t want to put up with it then you have every right and reason to leave.

DesperateDenise · 25/03/2025 17:45

YOu found him on webcam sites and adultwork, and he has used prostitutes- they always say they were " just looking" -but you are still with him. Of course he will keep doing exactly what he wants , he will continue to cheat, because there is nothing to stop him. He knows he can get away with it.
I don't know how you can bear to be so disrespected OP. The relationship would have been over for me as soon as I caught him on one of these websites.

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Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:48

DesperateDenise · 25/03/2025 17:45

YOu found him on webcam sites and adultwork, and he has used prostitutes- they always say they were " just looking" -but you are still with him. Of course he will keep doing exactly what he wants , he will continue to cheat, because there is nothing to stop him. He knows he can get away with it.
I don't know how you can bear to be so disrespected OP. The relationship would have been over for me as soon as I caught him on one of these websites.

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It’s a 20 year relationship with children so always tried to keep family together but I’m just now so drained of it, finding Snapchat was the last straw, I’m finally done

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fatphalange · 25/03/2025 18:01

He's disgusting and you know that so you can't be surprised that he's acting true to his nature.

namechanged221 · 25/03/2025 18:04

Op, sending hugs.

I'm going through something similar though not webcams etc with my DP of 18 years.

Init4thecatz · 25/03/2025 18:05

I've never used it... how is it usually used?

WallaceinAnderland · 25/03/2025 18:53

I don’t think he can stop, it’s like an addiction

Of course he can stop! He just doesn't want to. He doesn't care what you think. You said it's been going on for years, why do you expect anything different to happen?

Chuchoter · 25/03/2025 21:22

He's actively seeking out breasts, bottoms and lady parts to salivate over and fuel his sexual fantasies and may even have physically cheated.

I wouldn't just bin him, I'd drop kick him into the gutter where he belongs.

CountryTunes · 26/03/2025 03:06

Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:39

It’s awful isn’t it, so selfish of them, I’ve also caught my husband on sites where prostitutes advertise and he says he was just looking at their pictures, I like an idiot actually believed him

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That's a lie. I caught my now stbxh on prostitute sites and he too said he was just looking but that turned out to be a lie. He had been seeing prostitutes behind my back. Men don't visit prostitute websites if they don't intend to see one. Your DH seems to have a sex addiction. Spare yourself the heartache and leave

DeepRoseFish · 26/03/2025 03:52

That’s vile and I’d be out the door.

Aerin1999 · 26/03/2025 03:53

SNAPCHAT???? Is he a 17 year old girl???

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Girlwithnoname7 · 26/03/2025 09:17

Aerin1999 · 26/03/2025 03:53

SNAPCHAT???? Is he a 17 year old girl???

I know, it’s actually embarrassing

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rubberduck68 · 26/03/2025 09:29

A lot of people (men) say this isn't cheating, and a lot of people (women) say it is. I think it's gross tbh, but it's about what you decide as a couple is okay. I found out a partner was into live-cams and I just did not want to be naked with him ever again. It really turned me off him. That was that. If you have told him how you feel about it, and he's still doing it years later, but finding new sneaky ways like Snapchat ,which gets erased soon after, then he's a disrespectful turd and you should act on that.

mumoftwoboys321 · 26/03/2025 11:34

Girlwithnoname7 · 25/03/2025 17:39

It’s awful isn’t it, so selfish of them, I’ve also caught my husband on sites where prostitutes advertise and he says he was just looking at their pictures, I like an idiot actually believed him

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It’s horrible that they don’t see it as wrong or seem to care how it makes us feel, the worst part is I’ve justified it for a long time and always said well he’s not physically cheating and we go on as a normal, think it’s sad that they can’t just use regular porn if that’s the case but suppose while they strike their egos or whatever it is puts us in a very low down thought from them

WallaceinAnderland · 26/03/2025 14:26

I bet if it was OP getting off on showing her naked body to men on Snapchat, he'd consider it cheating!

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Girlwithnoname7 · 31/10/2025 06:58

update.. so Snapchat was just the tip of the iceberg, since this post it’s come to light he was also on kik, telegram, numerous porn WhatsApp groups and forums, webcams, live chats, a huge addiction

for anyone going through this, and anyone involved in a similar situation, they absolutely do not change, it’s so hard to open your eyes and believe it all, as a mum I am trying to keep our family together and as a dad he was continuously ripping it apart.

so divorce is nearly final… so glad I eventually opened my eyes even if it took me so long to do, I forgave so much there was nothing left of me, time to move on

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