Sex & AntiDepressants

[TooEmbaressedToUseRealName]

DH is on Seroxat. I am on Prozac.

I have been on them on and off for years and have accepted that they affect my sex drive- but DH has never really noticed any difference as when 'not in the mood' - i just 'lay back and thought of england'

however, since he started his seroxat- i am so fed up.

Its like he's on viagra. but he cannot 'finish what he starts' if you know what i mean.
It sounds great doesn't it....what every woman wants...but its awful- it makes me dread bedtime as sex is such a chore when you both feel you have run a marathon and theres no prize.

I'm afraid that this can be a side effect of Seroxat.

I'm a bit shocked by your post to be honest - both of you on antidepressants and him not realising you don't enjoy sex, it sounds bloody awful.

Have you both been given the chance to have counselling? Are you having proper health care?

as a couple we've never had couselling.

I had some bad sexual experiences as a teenager- so have had counselling- however until i had my first child i still felt nothing- having 3 boys has in a weird way made me more relaxed about the whole sex thing- so i am glad to say i do enjoy it sometimes. i've never faked anyting either.

to be honest it wasn't till dh was put on these anti-d's that i realised just how much i relied on it 'all being over in a matter of minutes'...and now feeling that it's a chore is horrible.

and that aside- theres the fact that his self esteem takes a real tumble everytime as he sees it 'he fails'. why do men always see it as failing? i feel 'satisfied' after we#ve 'tried'...but he will insist on keeping going - and it is no wonder nothing happens for him - he is then not at all relaxed.

i find it very hard describing what we have tried- so i will leave that to your imagination- however i feel that whatever i do is not enough- and therefore i am starting to wish he'd just not try for a few weeks- take the pressure off us both.

we have talked about it- but i still find sex talk very hard- counselling did't help me with 'pillow talk' or feeling repressed- but it did help me learn to enjoy sex.

Can I ask why you are on ADs? Have you a good dr? Would they not let you try counselling or CBT instead?

In my job, I work in a type of counselling role with many people who are on ADs- however, I'm a great believer that talking and making practical changes is the answer- not using drugs. I KNOW they have their place, but not long term.

Can you not go back to your GP?