Am i overreacting?

[Bloof634]

Hi all. A plea for advice! So i am part of a group chat with my husband and around circa 15 friends (some close, some not so and just associates / fellow party goers from his youth). A girl my husband is friends with (an old but not close friend) has shared (out of the blue) her baby shower gift list. Nobody has asked for this / asked her what to buy her in this group chat.

Previously the relationship between my husband and this girl been a bit strained due to this girl being a bit 2 faced and they havent spoken much in 2 years. She isn't inviting any of the 15 friends to said baby shower because she has recently located to the USA from the UK. We are all British and understand culturally its more the norm in the USA. My husband and I are currently experiencing issues with fertility so we find it a bit upsetting.

I don't think I want involved and would very much like to remove myaslf from the chat (I wont) but what do you think I should do?

Just ignore.

You are an adult. Remove yourself from the chat.

I don’t think I’d give it another thought. If no one is discussing the shower on the chat, presumably her gift list will just be overtaken by messages about whatever it is you usually talk about. If she lives on another continent and none of the people on this group chat are invited to her shower, I’d assume she’d posted it in error. I don’t see the relevance of whether she and your husband get along or not, though. Good luck ttc.

Just mute the chat