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Fed up of arty f*ckboys. Is there hope? Give me your stories!

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Overthinker89 · 24/03/2025 20:27

Not sure why i keep dating variations of the same man. Meet someone, we get on, connect physically and intimately then after a few weeks or months they fade then ghost. I have therapy once a week and have done for a year to work on myself, single parent a young child, put him first, date only when he is at his Dad's, work hard, have good friends and run/walk/read/do photography in my spare time so life is still full and enjoyable when i am not dating but god it's brutal and very hard to not take rejection personally. Did anyone else spend their 30s or 40s dating avoidant men like this then meet someone and form a healthy relationship? Give me hope. Also, well aware i can work on myself two as it's not anyone's fault per se but it does feel like a pattern whereby the men i go for seem super into it, i try and keep one foot on the ground at all times and them BAM as soon as i begin to trust the relationship enough like clockwork, they ghost?!

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Lovelyview · 24/03/2025 22:00

You've posted this on the Feminism board. You might get more joy asking to move to the relationships board 🙂

Overthinker89 · 25/03/2025 08:17

Thanks. Not quite sure how that happened it was meant to be on the relationships board not here all along. I'll ask MN to remove it :)

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ChersHandbag · 25/03/2025 11:26

Yes, I’ve done it. It’s really upsetting. Basically I have come to understand that these guys are on a self-directed journey of discovery type thing. All their intensity is for themselves, and the woman is kind of in the ‘manic pixie dream girl’ role, ie to help them (the main character) develop.

Really hate them now.

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