Just not that into me

[Alittlehocuspocus]

Just posting this for myself!! I can write here what I mustn’t say out loud 😂

When two people are incredibly busy, they can still find two minutes a few times a day for a call or message beyond “how’s your Monday going?”.

It isn’t enough to be enthusiastic only when directly in front of each other. Effort needs to be made every day.

Please help with the pep talk ladies!! I want to feel like a priority and not an option 🤦🏼‍♀️

He’s just not that into me. I need to be fine with that and adopt the same energy.

Don't play games, it just confuses things. He's said hes not texted much because his diary's full, now he's asking for a call and like someone else said, you're the far busier person with kids about so you'd be the best person to choose when to call.

You’re all calm and wiser. I’m being juvenile I know. I met ExH at freshers week in the room across me in halls. I’ve never dated outside of school!! Which I know is ridiculous for a 44 year old professional woman who looks like I’ve got my shit together, but now I’m caught in a dizzy spell!!

He seems much calmer generally (he’s a few years younger actually), but when we speak it’s amazing and when we talk work it just flows well. He’s gorgeous and very good at his job, but also a lovely person.

I can’t stop thinking about the amazing intimacy. It’s incredible! He makes me feel so beautiful, whereas I was always told I should be on a diet and questioned if I should be wearing certain clothes. ExH rarely wanted sex and if he did it was 5 minutes and entirely unfulfilling. I felt awful about myself in my marriage. Just awful and now I feel like I’m flying. It’s so intense and I don’t know what to do about it.

I need counselling. He doesn’t know I’m feeling like this by the way, I’m still calm on the surface. I may not have chance to call tonight, but I’ll ring him in the morning.

Thank you again for listening.

Stop fighting it and go with it. Just enjoy the moment for whatever it is and don’t play teenage mind games.

I'm in a similar situation and it's wonderful now I've weathered the initial madness. I too hadn't dated since university days so.was completely inexperienced and immature about the whole thing. I've kept this hidden and under wraps and acted mature and sensible which has been a struggle but it's so worth it to have an adult relationship.

You've been seeing him a few weeks and only known him for 8 months. Slow your roll, you are sounding really intense. This is new relationship energy and you're letting it overwhelm you.

Fgs just call him! If you’re as interested as you say then go for it, but calm down a bit. Or you’ll self sabotage this before it’s even started. That doesn’t mean less communication, but stop jumping ahead and just enjoy it.

If the intimacy is as good as you say then cool it on the game-playing.

You’re all right. Don’t be needy, don’t play games.

Be calm and collected. I know he’s super attracted to me when we’re in meetings and I’m leading the discussion. So I’ll channel that energy.

Then I’m planning our lunch on Wednesday with no food involved 😂 I’ll rock his world whilst being happy and calm, no games. I can’t stop thinking about him!! I think he feels the same, but perhaps not. I feel intoxicated. I’m such a novice when it comes to the male mind!!

Honestly, I need a coach!!

@Alittlehocuspocus how are you feeling about things today? I'm in a very similar situation to you, so know exactly what you are going through.