Bumped into someone from the past

[GoodCharl]

Its kicked up old feelings. Someone give my head a wobble.

im in the final stages of divorce. Not planning on looking for anyone. Concentrating on the children and getting financially on top. Staying single.

we never even dated but were part of a wider group of mates. Always gravitated towards each other. We connected on Facebook and i can see hes got a partner. How do you stop this feeling! Cant stop bloody thinking about him!

I would mute him on Facebook so you don’t see his posts.

I would also try to go out with friends and see other people as a distraction. Take up a new hobby that keeps you busy. Basically keep active and busy. The more downtime you have the more you will find yourself thinking about him.

I think - just don’t attach importance to those thoughts. They don’t really matter because you know he’s not available so nothing will happen. It may in part be your emotions reacting to the fact that you no longer have to maintain loyalty to a partner because of your divorce. You have a newfound freedom in that regard.

‘He’s already got a partner’

Gentle reminder - If you carry on down this slippery slope the only one getting hurt is you. Trust me been there.

Mute him on facebook, don’t stalk him check up on him etc and let keep pushing the feelings to one side.

Last tip find someone available.

Youre right ladies. I would never go there knowing hes in a relationship. Im not like that. I suppose its all the “what could have been” feelings. Yes agree, i think its my end of divorce/freedom kicking in. Will just have to stop and bat any thoughts away that come into my head! Arrggh 😂

I can empathise. When something major happens in the present we often revisit the past. It’s like we are trying to process things and think about all the ‘sliding doors’ moments that have brought us to this point. It’s natural so don’t give yourself a hard time. Put your energy into yourself and focus on getting yourself sorted with a new, happier, life.

Wishing you well 💐